Thanks DM, I needed that..

That's just it DM it keeps coming back, and if I manage to push it
out of my mind for this time, it still will eventually pop up again.

I had a few traumatic experiences in my life and it is trying to solve the
problem of , Was it me that caused this , Or was it something else that was
at fault.

I even play this over and over in my mind like it was happening again
and how and what I would say or do to change things. I know things can't
change, it's what has happened and that is that.

BUT, WHY DO I STILL TRY TO SOLVE IT ANOTHER WAY!!!!!


Jappy

We are our own worse enemy, Joyce. Thats why we have MS..

Me too Jappy!

Whenever I read a thread like this one it brings up heaps of memories, but why do the bad always seem to outweigh the good? Why do they take over so you can't remember the good bits?

I assure you I do have some happy memories from the past few years, but what went before always seems to lurk....always seems to overshadow.

Maybe one day......

Maybe the memories of the less than happy times makes us appreciate the good times even more.

A great thread and some enlightening replies.

From what I read, 'most' of us are worriers. Myself included (and I would even put myself forward for the Biggest worry wart), I dwell on the past and my mistakes and my attitude and my dissapointments in my path to where I am today.

I would say that not one day passes when I don't worry or regret something from my past that I can dredge up with ease from the front of my mind. There's always a bucket load of stuff close to hand and ready for my re-hash and examination.

If stress is a major factor toward the progression of MS, are we all more susceptible due to the very nature of our worrying and ability to continually worry???
whereas my partner, for example, not only does he not worry about the past but its all so unimportant that its gone from his memory. So laid back he's horizontal.

Well, i ki nd of do that. I write a new ending, change how it happened or how I handled it, whatever. Make the story what I wanted it to be. It doesn't change reality, but if something similar ever crops up I know what i'll do (or I can tell myself that).

I think that's why those bad thoughts come around, becuase I'm afraid I'll do the same dumb thing again. And at least if I have a plan the next time, I'm prepared. It may be a bad plan, but it won't be the same mistake.

Better a bad plan then no plan.



And that does change how the old memory affects me. It loses its grip. I can remember without it sending me into a dark place.

I agree. I do worry, and get into the zone of looking back at bad things. but I really believe you can program yourself to do less of that. Thinking either positively or negatively can become a habit.

I got very upset, angry, etc when I first became sick and it was serious work getting my head back together. But I make an effort daily to think *now*, not back then, not tomorrow. I see how the dogs think and try to think like that. That's how you get laid back lol.

If I look back, I try to see what was funny, good, and happy.

This entire world is what you percieve it to be, remember that. It really is a figment of your imagination. Now.... what would you like to imagine?

I am glad you are feeling better about things Sal. I made a lot of poor
choices in my younger years....but I figure it was my journey and made me
what I am today. I try not to dwell on it(sometimes it hard) but when I
look at my 4 great kids...living a great life, I think ya know, I did SOME
things right!

I agree, Sox, Brain, Pud, Kitty et al. I love your posts....and "thanks for the memories"...LOL.