It's been a really stressful year but I think i've handles it pretty well, really.

Just one thing too many.

Dh got layed off in jan. This after all the assurances *The railroad never lays off, go ahead, buy the truck*.



We were a couple weeks from no ins, when he got a transfer -to FL. Okay, we'll make that work somehow.

He waits and waits for the call, when to start the job. and when they call, they want him asap. We were in the middle of a complete gut job on the bathroom. Literally, the tub, toilet, and sink/vanity were sitting in the yard when he's on the phone with new boss.

He says he can be there Weds - and we hurry-finish, putting the floor in the night before we ride out.

We get to FL and he's sitting in his training only to find out that somebody has bid his job - wth? Boss says don't worry, he'll think of something. As dh finished the class, boss finds another bridge for dh to work - not in Jacksonville, but Sanford. Big disappointment, but again we'll work this out. Better this than no job, right?

Dh no sooner starts this job than he learns somebody is bidding for it! He could be out of this job too. Then, we find out it's the same guy that bumped him out of the first bridge. He never even showed up to that job, and the job was never filled.



A whole lot of phone calls, and a few strings get pulled by the new boss. Dh is not a bidded bridge tender, so a displaced guy can technically bid him out of there, but boss wrangled him in as *bidded* somehow, and kept him, for the time, safe from that one guy. Whew.

So dh is living in a motel until last week, we went through all our savings and racked up a few grand on the credit cards. But - if this works out, we can move here and pay all this off shortly, and the security of having ins will have almost been worth it.

I'm dealing with dh waffling on coming home vs staying there, trying not to freak about the truck - still almost new - getting rammed, getting broke into. I laughed off getting bitten by fire ants and stung by a jellyfish, not being a sissy about a million other things. *All things for a reason* and all that jazz.


So meanwhile,ds just got divorced and has his daughter - my dgd. Baby's mother is in and out of the picture - so who is babysitting? Me, a lot of the time. Ds just bought a house, works full time, and makes good money, but in the divorce they were supposed to be sharing custody and he was paying support. Now he's going back for full custody, since he has full custody. So he really is strapped for cash.

Until he wins, he'd have a hard time coming up with money to pay a sitter, I get that and am willing to help as much as I can.

DD works pt, and lives with me.

So it's like this, either I'm up here trying to fix this place, clean etc while babysitting (and I have enough just getting through a day, you know what I mean) or I'm down there leaving the kids to fend for themselves.

Last time I went down there I came back and dd left as I walked in the door, leaving me to babysit right off the plane. The house was a disaster. The washing machine (frontloader) had mold growing in it, the dishwasher was plaugged, and I still can't figure how to unplug it. I don't think she cleaned a single thing, seriously.

I had a stack of mail at home and another at the PO.

2 weeks later and I have not put a dent in what needs done here.

Okay, following? All this and I have not thrown myself off a bridge. But yesterday I went to refill my rx's. Got a call soon after that one there are no refills on, and the ins called the doc to see if he'd prescribe, and he is no longer there - this is the pain doc. I never got any notice or anything.



My pain clinic closed or moved, and nobody told me? I have about 4 days of tramadol - not like that's some miracle drug, but it's all I have - then what?

Sheesh. I really need one more thing.

I don't want to start over with one more new doctor. And I'm just fed up all the way to my eyeballs with everything having to be so dang hard. Even the good stuff, it has to be so hard.

Man, I am not complaining about anything today after reading this. Here's a virtual

Hope things get worked out.

Wow, you've got a lot on your plate, dear...

Now, you need to go into the bathroom, lock the door, turn the shower on, and have a good, loud, screaming cry.
Then sit and breathe in slow and deep.
And know that you're not alone...it might feel like it, but you're not.

Tell your kids to come over and help you clean...you're doing them favors, now make them help you. It will only cost them time.
These are small ways to take care of yourself...

rant away, we're here for ya!!

I know you didn't ask for advice but you are getting it from me:

First; call a family meeting and just tell the "kids" that you are really having a rough go of it now and they need to step up to the plate and help out where ever they can.

Anyone who is not willing to help is NOT getting help and stick to your guns.

Then make some phone calls:

Call the bank and ask to meet with someone there who can help you sort through things. When DS ran into financial problems a four years ago he charged everything to credit cards and is still paying them off!

Most banks are willing to work with you to re-do or at least defer a couple of payments and would rather do that than take things they don't need and will lose money on.

I learned this from our bank manager neighbor who was talking about all the property they didn't want!

I know you are going through a lot right now but you have your friends here in your corner and at least we can offer a hug.

Wow;...hugs to you Brain;.

wow bgb. Can't do anything but listen and

If I ever complain about my mundane problems again...Kick me, Brain.

Thanks. But you know, I'm not saying my life is so bad... like nobody else has problems. It could be worse. So many people have it worse....

I was okay mostly. It's just this stupid thing with the doc being gone. Ugh. One stupid little thing. After the rest of that, you'd think that wouldn't be enough to razzle me.



I did call my PCP, maybe he can do something, meanwhile. But it'll be Nov 3 before I can get in.

Yeah, I sat the kids down. Ds really does have his hands full. But he did stop over to cut the grass today. Lawnmower is goofed up, he tried to fix it but nothing doing. He tried calling dh, could not get through. It's all going like this lol.

Dd just blows me off when I talk to her. I love her to death but she's a pain in my butt right now.

I would do what you said, and talk to the bank about my cc's, and all that. But I need to talk to them about a re-fi on my 2nd mortgage (house is paid off, took a note to do some repairs) if we do buy the FL house. I can't afford for it to look like we need help paying our current bills - which really are not bad, we're not in trouble.

I need for it to look like we're keeping on top of it, you know? And really we are. We were going backward while he was in that hotel and paying for travel, but he's in an apartment now, so we're on an even keel now. Just got to pay cc's off.

We should do really well on tax returns, on a positive note. And we know we're lucky to have started off where we were, financially. How many people could do this, one income, 4 months layed off, pay bills in two places and only go in the hole a couple grand?

I feel for you Brain . I did the back and forth thing between PA and FL about four years ago. It was rough to say the least. I survived with just a broken ankle, a septic tank going in the crapper (I has to say that lol) right before closing on the sale of our house etc. etc. It'll get better .

Btw, Sanford is only a few hours away from me . Maybe I'll run into you sometime .