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Old 09-14-2010, 05:20 PM #11
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on FILs instructions the nurse took the very last of his money and paid for his funeral services, including the church and a small reception afterwards. she took his account down to $22. my Ex got wind of it, and called to cuss her out. she blazed him. Told him how disgusting she thought his behavior was, and that his father is still ALIVE, and can spend his money anyway he wants. This is his fathers dying wish that his friends be allowed a service for him. the Ex is demanding that he has an insurance policy for that, put the money back. FIL said he knows of no such policy and his son is a liar. spend it all before he leaves here. HAHAHA! Go dad!

i was thrilled to learn he has many visitors. Church folks, neighbors, community center folks, and the senior center folks. he was well loved by his friends, and community and they are rallying around him. I feel better knowing he wont be alone when he goes. he recieved communion today and has constant old ladies cooing over him. Pleased me to bits.

I am also thrilled that sonny boy will show up to an empty plate. He was expecting to empty the accounts, and use the money to help himself out of a hole. Dad just gave a handful to the church, the humane society, the local pound, his nurse who has adopted his dog, the senior center...you get the idea. There is $22 left in the account, dad said "let him have it." so...karma will bite you in the end.

TY all for being so helpful while I struggled with leaving him.
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HaHa, I love this guy. Bless him, I hope he has a peaceful passing.
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Go Dad!! Bless his heart......I'm so glad to hear he's done this. And that he still has his sense of humor. Your ex got what he deserves.
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I sent more flowers, AND I sent flowers to the nurses station with a box of chocolates to say thank you for caring for him. I received a quilt from his mother when I was married to my ex as a present. i boxed it up, and sent it to the hospice to lay on his bed to cuddle with. They have clear instructions that NO ONE gets that blanket back but me. I have provided a return lable prepaid to simply put it back in the box and return it to me. I overnighted it to him, and he wept like a child when he saw his moms old quilt. I was thrilled to be able to provide it for him. My ex is furious that I still have that blanket, and thinks he can claim it as his own. The nurse stood up to him, and explained that theft of property will be met with arrests. HA!

exFIL has a strong church family, and community rallying around him, and they are not bending for this mans alcoholic son. Im sorry, I know I shouldnt be, but I am secretly thrilled that sonny boy cant just waltz in, strip the old man, and leave. OH btw, that trailor that sonny thinks he is going to strip and rent? HA! the old mans dog was incontinent, and the house is ripe with urine soaked carpets, because for the last month the dog wasnt let out in time. All those antiques of days gone by were pawned, or hocked to pay for medical servies needed during this last year. There is nothing left but a busted trailor full of salvation army style goods. HA! it will take a boat load of money to bring it up to code to be able to rent it. The owner of the park has tacked a note on the door for a 30 to fix or vacate notice. Dad squeezed every bit of living out of that place, and to bring it back is a major undertaking. When friends offered to help FIL fix it, he refused, saying "my drunk son is only going to show up and wreck it. dont bother." I am so proud of him!

Please help me pray for a peaceful passing for one of the sweetest men I have ever met. he deserves to be met in style at the rainbow bridge with the tons of animals he loved and rescued thru the years.
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What a wonderful legacy he is leaving...he will live on in the memory of all who loved him...and I am SO glad to see karma is still at work in the universe
Bless you for sending him the blanket...you are so thoughtful
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He got to speak to his son/grandson yesterday and spoke what was in his heart. a few hours later, he passed away. He was heavily medicated due to pain, which was still not well controlled. He didnt linger though, he moved right along after getting a chance at a heart to heart with his son.


Thanks for the prayers. he is now playing on the rainbow bridge with all of his lost doggies.
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I'm so glad he got the chance to do and say what he wanted to before moving on. And I'm glad you got to speak to him again, too. I know that meant alot to the both of you. Now....he's free from pain and worry. God bless him.
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May he rest in peace now, and may you find peace in it, as well.
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He is at peace now. No more pain no more worries.

I am sure he was greeted at the Golden Gates with many of the
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He is out of pain now. Take comfort in knowing you did what you could for this kind man in spite of the ex's feelings. Like you said, Karma has bitten him in the butt. It is nice that he got to tell his son his feelings before he left this world. Take care. Thinking of you. Shirley
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