I'm so sorry to hear of the dx, Doydie. Dej is right....hospice is amazing. Looking back I know that I could not have survived (with any good sense) without them when my Dad was so sick. I hope your Mom is comfortable and knows that you and your sis are doing your best to care for her. You're all in my prayers.

Hospice is wonderful. My Mother passed away in peace there and they were there for us, as well. You can have some hospice care at home and Medicare pays for that too.

((((((Doydie, Mom & Family)))))

Hospice is great!

I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Prayers and Hugs go out to you

Doydie, So sorry to hear of your Mom...my Mom is 87 and we moved in almost for years ago...so glad she is with us. Hope things will work out with your sis. My Dad passed six years ago...cancer and Hospice was great service and Medicare paid in full the whole thing. Dad really got mad at me for set it all up however only seven days later he was gone....know my prayers are with you...take care of you!!

tomorrow is supposed to be transfer today. Mom told us that the doctor said Sunday but she has a habit of suggesting what she wants and then expecting that it will be done that way. So when we talked to the nurse she said everything is ready for tomorrow. My brother is coming from out of town and she wants to be up in a chair with a pretty gown on like nothing is wrong!!! He is a hospice chaplain wants to see the nursing home but Mom doesn't want him to see it at all. Like if she doesn't talk about it that it won't happen.

Mom has always wanted to die at home so when the time comes we will try to get her to accept hospice. The thought that Hospice pays for meds and such did sound good to her though

I hope mom changes her mind after she is surrounded by such lovely, hard working, caring, compassionate folks. They have a way about them that is 2nd to none. I hope they make her happy, comfy and feel safe.

GL on your day. We will be whispering prayers for you.

Good luck on transfer day. Let us know how it goes for you Mother. I'm hoping for the best for her.

My brother and his son came today. My brother is a hospice chaplain and his son feels very estranged from the family due to some of his bad choices during his teen years. He was unable to come for Christmas and when he found out it was more than likely Moms last he was devastated and had to come see her. So My brother was very patient and explained what hospice was and what it offered and explained in the way that only he could how this journey might take her. As they were getting ready to leave and shortly before her transfer was to occur she had a severe pain crisis. She would not let any of us kids in the room as she didn't want us to see her in pain. It took awhile but the nurses got it under control and she was transferred. the driver let me ride with her.

When we got to the nursing home they brought out this huge pneumatic transfer thing, it transferred and weighed her. It really made the standing easier.

I explained my emotions to my husband this way. I kind of feel like all the business, hard work, emotions of getting everything ready for Christmas. Not the wonderful Christmas feelings but the frustrating physical excertion. then it's all over and you have this huge feeling of relief but I still have this whole journey for the next several months that is going to take me on this roller coaster. All I know is that right now I am physically and emotionally exhausted but my Mom doesn't even want her church friends to know she has cancer. So how can we expect her to ask these people to help my sister and I to be caregivers along with us.

In a way I hope that she very quickly comes to this harsh reality that she isn't getting better and qwe can get along with the planning so we can get some help.

You are a good daughter.