for those that remember, he is in a bad relationship with a woman that is quite clearly verbally and emotionally abusive. The last time they fell apart she burned all of his stuff in a back yard bonfire with her new b/f. After new b/f got aggressive and left her holding the bag for a bunch of bills, she called DS and begged his forgiveness. He is so stuck on her, and he went roaming back full of hope and love.

She announced yesterday as he handed her a diamond pendant that "I dont want to celebrate Valentines day anymore with you. If I loved you I would, but since I dont, keep your cheap knock off" What she didnt know was that its real. So, after losing yet another job because she calls 40xs a day to see if he is working with another woman, he is devestated. I havent seen him in months because she has made it clear that he isnt allowed to see his family because we are all stupid and out to get her.

I want so badly for this bright, wonderful young man to wake up and understand that no matter what he does, nor how he does it, nor how fast he does it, she isnt going to love him. I have asked him to just stay here for a while and get his head on.

Say a little prayer for this young man. I hope this is the day he picks himself up and decides he wants better. Why do we allow others to behave so badly in the name of love? How is it that we can someone we want to love us to cut us to shreds?

Happy Valentines day! At least he is free for now.

Bless his heart. I really hope he'll stay home for a while and get her out of his system. She sounds like a piece of work (as my dad used to say about people he didn't like). It's so hard to watch as our kids make the same mistakes over and over again. I'll say a prayer for him.

The problem is that its HIS lesson, and I cant learn it for him. I can guide him, and advise him, but I cant learn it for him. I think we all have that one special someone in our past that dumped on us, made us miserable and caused us to learn a painful lesson. This is his. I have pointed out many road signs, and provided rest stops and guidance along the way, but I cannot force him to hear me.

He is sooooo close to being able to see this girl for who and what she really is. Its still hard to watch him with a broken heart. I wish there was a local girl that I could introduce him to. Altho I dont think dating is a good idea. I think building his own foundation is what he needs. You cant be good with anyone else if you are a mess.

Sigh. its hard to watch.

I totally understand what you're going through . Last summer my oldest (he's 23) son's girlfriend decided that they needed to take 'a break'. During that break she hooked up with a lifelong, so-called friend of my son's . We later found out that this relationship started BEFORE they were 'on a break'.

My son didn't find out about this until he was already back together with the girl. He forgave her almost instantaneously and they stayed together until about a month ago. SHE broke up with him AGAIN. He won't talk about it with anyone except to tell his brother that he would take her back in heart beat .

Thankfully, I've kept my mouth shut, which is really hard for me , because I know that my son will be angry with me and not her. I just really hope she stays away this time.

I know it's hard and I know it hurts......and I am so glad that I don't have to deal with that anymore. Not for my kids but for me. I just don't have the emotional energy for it anymore. And drama just makes my head spin. Never in a million years did I think I'd enjoy my solitude but I do.

DAngit! his g/f sent him a text while we were out getting something to eat, and he broke into tears, and went outside. I gave him a few, and followed him. He told me how much he loves her and really wants to make it work. She texted him about "where are you? your g/fs?" he was so broken, and said he didnt know what he could do to convince her that he doesnt/wont cheat on her. After a long talk with him, he became so upset that he chose to return to her apartment for when she gets home from work. He said he wants to "confront her" well, you and I both know that doesnt work. I tried to get him to at least stay one night and rest, but he was so agitated he chose to leave.

Grrrr....makes me wanna slap someone!