[Dejibo]

I just had a HUGE fight with DH. The man NEEDS a J O B! I am tired of all of the cant's in my life. Cant drive, cant camp, cant love my cat, cant travel, cant dance, cant ride my bike...Im working hard to find ways around all this, but I have been growing more and more discontent and the hot dog episode put me over the top today. I threatened to leave. I did leave! I was gone a while, and man o man it did me good to just get some air! I dont need a baby sitter 24 hours a day, but no one trusts me to do stuff on my own.

I came back to a new DH. He was kind, and sweet and apologetic. He presented me with a reservation for a 2 night 3 day spa package at the fancy Newport RI hotel and spa with a harbor view! 7th floor! He provided a cat sitter with a wonderful local woman who is well versed in JAcks condition and has agreed to stay overnight if I wish. She can medicate him if needed. The other (good neighbors) are going to visit inbetween the times that the sitter will be here to keep the kids happy. I get a massage, a facial, a mani/pedicure and its right smack dab in the middle of everything. You can walk to everything!

The best part is that DH is my chauffer, and has declared that its up to me. We shall wake each day and If I say so, he will just go fish till I call him on the phone. If I wish to be left alone, I shall be. If I wish his company he is happy to fire up the car and take me anywhere I wish.

How cool is that?! OMG OMG OMG I cannot even begin to express how much my wounded spirit needs this. Ahhhh, just the thought of it!

Anyone familiar with Newport Rhode Island? I will be directly downtown so I can walk to the shops, or sit and eat ice cream on the bench till I fall asleep. the weather channel (even got a print out) says its going to be lovely weather! so yea me! maybe something will work out after all! OMG OMG OMG!

[SallyC]

Lucky Stiff!!!!

[Kitty]

So when's the big day?

I thought you were going to tell us that he was letting you go by yourself. He probably thought about that and figured you might not come back if he wasn't there to bring you! Just kidding.....I'm really glad you have this to look forward to.

[Erin524]

I'm jealous!

I want out of my house so badly right now. I'm looking into going to visit my boyfriend the next town over. He lives 50mi from me. Want him to take me to a baseball game (I'll pay for him to go to the game and buy him peanuts if he'll take a weekend off and go to baseball games with me)

I just dont have the energy at the moment.

Hope you have fun Dej!

[Debbie D]

And I thought I was asking for a lot to hav Calgon take me away

sounds as if you've been heard, Dej...

[ewizabeth]

Sometimes you need to blow your top to be heard. I blow my top about once a decade but it's always necessary and seems to get results. If I'm still angry the next day he knows he's in trouble, lol. You aren't asking for a lot. I'm glad he's being more responsive now.

[TwoKidsTwoCats]

Happy for you! Sounds like a wonderful plan and time!


I have to admit I was laughing after reading your story earlier today, about him stopping off for hotdogs. My first thought was ....Oh something is going to blow before the day is over... and look at you!

[Dejibo]

We NEVER fight. I mean we work hard to be grown up, and have taken each others hearts into consideration. I am grown enough to accept some facts, and deal with others, but I have had this building cauldron of steam and it blew yesterday.

He said he thought of me going by myself, but he said MS is a real monster, and I can either take a g/f with me or a DH. He is a better choice because he will leave me alone. He will sit on the wharf and fish all day, and just wait for his call to come be in service. Whether that is drive me to dinner, or walk me to the beach if I dont feel stable on my feet. I am pretty visually challenged at this point, so its good to have a chauffer. he will also pay for breakfast, lunch and dinner. He will buy me a trinket if I want ( need a new sweatshirt from RI)

I was born in Newport RI. My daddy was in the Navy when I was born, and that is where we landed. This is the city I have chosen to have half my ashes spread when I die. right off the Jetty. I can sit out there for hours and just escape into my own head. Something about the place you came into this world when you are a wanderer. So, DH said he would walk me out there, leave me and come back to get me when I wave the flag.

This trip is all about refilling my extremely empty cup. I have dust in my cup! between my mom, sis, brothers, children, bad real moms of my DD, neighbors, and keeping many things afloat during a really bad winter along with a very sick cat and losing my 23 y/o baby cat. I simply cant breathe because I have nothing left to give even to myself. So, its my spoon trip!

DH said if I do well, and the house is still standing we can book a trip to...you ready??? Hershey! OMG !!!! chocolate city! just the place 2 folks on a diet need to go. I have always wanted to go there. We did DollyWood when he first retired, but then I got sick and we have sat here looking at the walls ever since.

ASk Vi how much I need this. OMG!!!! I have cried and cried and cried with relief that I am finally, truly, really leaving this house.

[NeuroNixed Craig]

Dej,

"CONGRATULATIONS" on receiving such a wonder experience ahead of you. I know you will take full advantage of it.

I'm sorry you had to pay the price you did to have things reach such a point before receiving this wonderful opportunity.
My wife will attest I do not take hints at all, even when dating. Once when living in Louisiana she just disappeared, for 4 hours. Came back and said she was on a walk and had decided to leave me. Well, not "me" really, just hated living there and everything about the place. The next day I gave my 2 weeks notice and we moved back to Virginia with no place to live and no jobs. Made no difference because we were together as a family.

Sometimes it takes the drastic action of our wives to get our attention and reset our priorities. I wish you guys a wonderful time of renewal.