I'm giggling at all this, but not when it comes to the care of animals. That comes first in all of this. Poor doggies need a caring home.

My DD and Family just got back from FLA, after a weeks vacation. The 20 yr old did not go, so she house sat, dog sat and cat sat for the week.

There are doggy day care places around and if noone is going to be home with the animals for an extended period of time, then either of these two options are needed.

You are not responsible, Dej, unless you have an understanding of care for the animals. However I couldn't help making sure they were cared for, so I probably would do it, if she didn't!! Then I would call the SPCA!

When I had my dog, for the last five years of his life, I refused to take a vacation or do anything that would have required that he be put in a kennel.

When we moved to the house we're at now. We took him to the kennel that TinyMonsters' breeder had recommended. That kennel was owned by a woman who bred the same breed of dog that Tiny was. We thought that it would be a good, safe place for Tiny to stay while we were busy moving. Since we also had houseguests while we were moving (my sister insisted that we put Tiny in a kennel because she thought he would traumatize her kids. He was a BIG dog and she was afraid he'd eat her kids or something)

My sister's kids werent the ones traumatized. Tiny was. The owner of the kennel we put him in was out of town for the two weeks he was at her kennel. She had her nephew taking care of the dogs. That kid was a sadistic <swearword>. He nearly beat my dog to death.

So, after that bad experience, I refused to let anyone else take care of Tiny and did it all myself. I wouldnt even let relatives come over and take care of Tiny. That's how much I lost trust in the world for taking care of him if I couldnt do it.

Dej, your neighbor might want to re-examine whether or not she wants to be a dog owner, since it seems like she doesnt have the time to care for them on her own. Hopefully her dogs are loved when she's home and has time to deal with them herself.

Man, that woman has gall don't she? Remember, when you sell your house, WARN THE BUYERS of the crazy dog lady

Ughh talk about thick headed and clueless about others...
she really takes the cake - I like all the recent ideas LOL.

I wonder if she wore out her welcome with all the others in the neighborhood and you are the ones left to use??

She called my house 8 times! I didnt answer, and she didnt leave a message. she keeps hoping DH is gonna pick up, so she can sweet talk him. Having been fed enough BS today I got in the car. I am too tired to walk down, and too upset to call. I rang her bell and she answered with a puzzled look on her face. I said "is your husband home?" puzzled she said "sure...why?" I said "are you going to invite me in? or shall I stand out in the hot sun all day?" she said "oh, please come in." started to ask me to take my shoes off, but I wasnt wearing any. DH came around the corner and I asked them both to show me to someplace to sit down, I wanted to talk to BOTH of them.

I said (paraphrasing here, but you get it) Look! I have had enough of the BS here. I am quite tired of being spoken to as if I am beneath you, and I am quite tired of being the last one on your list for your fancy dinner parties, but the first one when you need dog poop picked up. You have NO idea if I am a pauper or a princess, so please stop acting like you ran a credit check on me and I came up lacking. #1 I live in a small water view house because I WANT TO! I dont want the taxes, upkeep, or BS that comes with owning a water front home. I CHOSE the home I am in on purpose, not out of money, but out of my desire, so stop acting like you are better than I am because you live here, and I dont. #2 I am tired of your wife telling me how much credit troubles you are having. I DONT CARE if you only owe X on your house and how many credit cards you have. DONT CARE! I personally have an 823 credit rating, have ZERO debt, owe nothing to anyone, and that includes answers to you. I probably have a thousand times more money in the bank than you do and I know that because your wife blabs it to everyone, AND it doesnt matter!

I went on to say things like I am a good person, kind, thoughtful, generous and sweet, and YOU (pointing at the wife) have struck my LAST nerve! I am quite tired of the cat and mouse game and it ends here and now. I do NOT want to let your dogs IN or OUT. I do not give a dang if your trees get wrapped in the winter or if your roof caves in. You are to STOP treating me and others the way you treat us. WE are good people and YOU are taking advantage of us, and IT ENDS NOW...GOT IT? so, unless you are ringing my phone to invite me to lobster night or a day out on your boat, dont bother. I am sick. I have MS and I dont know if you know or care, but I have my hands full with MY problems. I dont give a damn about yours. HAve the courtesy when you invite someone over to STFU and talk about them once in a while.

I went on and said a few more things, and was heavy handed, but it needed to be aired out. Then...her husband stood up. DEMANDED that she apologize to me. Said he has NO idea that we had been excluded from the guest lists, that his wife has been telling him we kept saying we were busy. He screamed at her like she was small child, and he an abusive parent. He lit into her with some words that would make sailors blush. I plopped down the business card of my cat sitter (who does ALL errands) and said Erin will be happy do anything from shopping, to walking dogs, washing windows, scrubbing floors or sitting and talking to you, BUT she charges $15 per hour, and will do anything you ask. As for ME...NO NO NO NO NO MORE! STOP ASKING! and if you dare to speak to me just ONE more time the way you spoke to me today, I can and will end this debate. So, think before you speak.

I headed for the door, and you could still hear her husband screaming at her when I was climbing in my car. So HA! I snitched her out. HA!

wow - might be why she is soo annoying - maybe he abuses/beats her if he would scream at her right in front of someone....

sad sad world..
but maybe you got you point across and her bothering you will stop.

good for you for standing up for yourself.

your cat sitter's name is Erin?

Your neighbor is what we call a snob. Sounds like her husband is not a snob.

I bet it felt good to tell her off like that. I dont think I'd ever be able to do that if it were me.

When you describe the way your neighbor acts, I always get this picture in my head of Mrs. Kravitz on Bewitched.

I have lived here for more than 5 years now, and each year sees her grow more and more annoying. Today was not an easy day, and I was simply pushed to the point of breaking. it was either get in the gutter with her, and start slinging mud, or act like a lady and go tell her off WITH a witness who could either comfort her, or help correct her.

Now for those that are thinking this is an abused woman, PLEASE know that she is NOT! I too fell for that when we first moved here. I got horrible stories on how abusive her husband is from her, and as we got to know him AND her, we saw that SHE is manipulative, hides the truth from him, bends the truth when he finds it, steals from his bank accounts, hides money from him, and bad mouths him to any one who will stand still long enough to listen. She emascualtes him at every corner. Its RARE for him to stand up to her. If its hot in her home, she will waltz into the room and loudly announce "if you are all wondering why its so warm in here, my husband has no thought of anyone but himself, and spun the heat up to 78! it will cool off soon, as I have regained control of the thermostat and returned it to a cooler area." Now, why couldnt she just turn down the heat, and speak to him after? Trust me, she gives every bit as good as she gets. She is the instigator and I wouldnt live with either of them long enough to find my shoes! I dont feel sorry for her, and I dont believe for one instant that she is trapped there. She has made too many statements that if she leaves, she gets NO money due to the prenup, so she will stay TYVM. UGH!

So, please dont think I make a habit out of such confrontations. I am normally a southern sweetie and will smile at some of the worst insults, but there are those days when I can be pushed over the edge, and show up dripping wet and angry that you pushed me in the pool.

Dej, this is harrassment. It's the very definition of harrassment. If she keeps it up, get a restraining order. This is total madness, imo.