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10-01-2011, 06:18 PM | #1 | |||
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It's a trade-off. Sometimes I get really, really lonely. Yes, I'm married, and he's a great guy, but sometimes I get lonely for OTHER people. But then there's the trade-off.
Relationships take energy and assume commitment. I don't do either very well these days. Sometimes I catch myself thinking "Nobody ever calls me." Well...most of the time I don't really WANT to talk on the phone, so I tend not to call people...or call them back. I don't really want to go places (see other thread), and neither of us do company very well. That pretty much narrows it down. So to over-simplify it, I don't want to be lonely, but I don't want to be around people. I can hear my mother saying, "You can't have it both ways". Well, apparently I can. Am I making any sense at all?? Sorry...this is the time of night I get really philosophical and really stupid at the same time.
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10-01-2011, 07:08 PM | #2 | |||
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Makes total sense to me. I feel the same way most of the time.
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10-01-2011, 08:28 PM | #3 | |||
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I never thought, when I was younger, that I would feel that way, but that's exactly how I feel, B2Y. I don't have the energy to entertain friends anymore and that's why I don't have as many.
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10-02-2011, 03:39 AM | #4 | |||
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Blessings, you need a PET!!! ((((warm hugs))))
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Blessings2You (10-02-2011), SallyC (10-02-2011) |
10-03-2011, 08:54 AM | #5 | ||
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B2Y, I know exactly what you mean. I have a friend who is single and lives out of state. She calls me every night and two to three times a day on week ends. It is too much responsibility. I have other things I want to do.
I call my mother once a week. She always tells me that she looks forward to my phone calls and they make her day. I could call her more often. My long distance calls are free so money is not an excuse. I don't call her more often because I do not want to be bothered. I have an Aunt who also lives out of state. She has asked me to send her my phone number many times. I do not send it because I do not want her to call me. Receiving phone calls annoys me. I though I felt this way because I might be depressed. I'm glad to hear other people feel the same. Maybe it is the weather. |
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10-03-2011, 10:38 AM | #6 | |||
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KK, just because a lot of us feel the same doesn't mean some of us aren't depressed! I find it hard to separate fatigue from depression, lassitude from apathy.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | SallyC (10-03-2011) |
10-03-2011, 10:58 AM | #7 | |||
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Me too!! Why is that??
I feel a little lonely and neglected when nobody calls and yet, I hate it when the phone rings. I comunicate thru my PC...here. facebook and e-mail. It makes me nervous and anxious to talk on the phone. I'm an idiot, no doubt about it.
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10-03-2011, 11:17 AM | #8 | |||
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I like getting phone calls from people I know (and like). What annoys me is when my phone rings at 8:55 PM and it's a survey taker acting like they know me. They use my first name and start the conversation off with "Hey, (my name)!! How are you?!" Trying to make me think it's a friend or someone I know. It's only then that they tell you they're doing market research and would just love my opinion. Wish I could come up with a decent "opinion" so they'd stop calling me!
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10-03-2011, 01:23 PM | #9 | |||
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Well, then, Sall, we're BOTH idiottes! I get anxious and nervous when I'm on the phone, especially if I don't initiate the call. Not all of the time, but a good share of the time. My thinker works better on the computer than in real life.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | SallyC (10-03-2011) |
10-03-2011, 02:55 PM | #10 | |||
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Ditto...lonely, but I have phonephobia; I don't like to bother anyone. I also don't tolerate groups very well anymore, and usually have to go home early. I get anxious and the noise is too much.
Blech...
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