I would eat as you normally do and then snack when your DD gets there. I understand how frustrating it is. I can be like that sometimes but most of the time I love when company comes over. I pretty much have an open door policy . . .just come when you want but know that between 11 and 1 I go down for my nap.

Want some of my Prozac??:D:p:D

I don't even like this language. Inflexible. Too rigid. (all very negative language) As an ex teacher I saw how a routine helps kids control behaviors. This is not to say we sometimes didn't have unexpected pleasures. But saw too much anticipation time didn't help. Some things with my own children were routine - naps, meals bedtimes, no surprises. We had no problems and now they sleep well, eat well. Too much routine can be too rigid, but too little is bad too, kids or adults. I hate being loosey-goosey to people who can't make a commitment time-wise. Leaves me on edge. I have a life too and resent them holding me time hostage. I have stuff I must do for ME.

I agree; there needs to be a balance. Moderation in all things.

I used to be such an inflexable control freak.:eek: It's amazing what an incurable disease, the ability to control very little, the need for help, a little humility and lots of Prozac can do.:D

Life's a Biotch!!

I have learned by watching my inlaws lose more and more control over their lives and bodies that this is the inevitability of being human...that this is where we end up. Maybe that's why so many of us want to have control and are overwrought when a monkeywrench is thrown into the day...because we have an instinct about the loss of control coming our way.

Those of us (like Sal) who learn this lesson and make "lemonade out of lemons" are much happier...or should I say more peaceful...in the day to day ebb and flow of life, IMO...I see MS taking more from me from month to month, small things, and I fight it...I know though that I have to learn that going with the flow rather than getting uptight about changes big and small will improve my mental state as well as my satisfaction with my life.
But knowing this and living this are two different things...:rolleyes: