[doydie]

On facebook all of her friends are saying congratulations. I just don't feel like that at all. This symbolizes a dream that failed. Does that deserve a congrats? At the courthouse I wanted to bad to ask him how he was doing and give him a hug before he left and wish him luck in whatever he chooses to do now. But I had 'liked' a comment he made on facebook that he was going to back to college and that really offended my daughter that I was liking something he was doing. So I just kept my mouth shut although my heart was aching. I them6 years they were married and the two years they were dating I came to love this guy. I know he has made some bad choices and with that comes circumstances but still my heart is aching. I would have loved to shake him and ask what in the world was he thinking in cheating on my daughter. On the other hand I wanted to give him a hug. If it was my daughter that had done that I would have continued to love her.

[Blessings2You]

I felt sad when my daughter and my son-in-love were divorced about three years ago. It was like a death in the family to me. Thank God they "get along" and aren't fighting, but he isn't a part of my life any more really, and I miss him.

I hope you are able to find some way to communicate to him how you feel, and that your daughter will eventually become comfortable with his and your relationship.

[karilann]

Its important to your daughter that you support her at this time. Imagine how you feel then times it by 10. Thats what she is really going through, especially if she has been cheated on.

My ex cheated on me as well and my parents said to me that he had betrayed their trust as well. Remember, blood is thicker than water.....spouses and boyfriends come and go......but your daughter will always be the love of your life.

Stay silient.....for now its supporting your daughter.

[Dejibo]

My son just left my home. He came to tell me he and this new g/f are not doing as well as he had hoped, and he asked for advice on how to sit and talk with her, not at her, to her, not about her. My heart was breaking for him. I really like this new girl, as she is a far cry from the last one, and even if they decide to part, she will still hold a place in my heart.

Its so hard when your children bring home mates, and want you to accept them as part of the family, and then want you to hate them, or shun them when they behave badly. I advised my son to GO HOME! work it out. I reminded him that as a man, he as the head of the household has a responsibility to provide safety, security, and stability for this little family. While I may not agree with how quickly they jumped in this boat, they are now in it, and he needs to start rowing. I advised him to NOT throw in the towel, find compassionate loving ways to get both or their needs met.

Im am sorry your DD got a divorce. Divorces hurt, even when both can remain friends, and compassionate with each other.