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Old 09-07-2016, 10:52 AM #1
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My uncle is currently in the hospital. He went in to have a bit of a delicate procedure on an artery very close to his heart. The procedure seemed to have gone off without a hitch and he was starting to recovery, but during recovery he developed pneumonia. They were forced to put him on a ventilator which my uncle tried to fight them on until the doctors told him without it he would be dead in a matter of hours. That was yesterday morning, and by last night they found blood in his lungs on top of the pneumonia. So they stopped all the blood thinners.

We are now in the waiting game. It will take at least a few days to see if there is any improvement, but might take less than that if he is sliding downward. He is in the medical void where doctors really can't say if he'll make it long enough to improve, and without the blood thinners there remains possibility of blood clots giving him a stroke or stopping his heart, but they didn't have a choice about stopping them or his lungs would have filled with blood and it wouldn't matter.

I am very grateful that I was able to make the trip to NH and introduce the GBs to him, but I'm also very greedy and want to see him again next year. Even as much as I love NH I also really don't want to make a return trip this soon under such circumstances. Which doesn't mean I won't likely be making a return trip soon if he recovers fully, I'm going to go give him heck for scaring the crap out of me, his sister, his brother and his husband. He's going to get an earful that's for sure, so I'm just praying he recovers well and quickly so I can go give it to him.
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Just said some healing prayers for your uncle. I know you must be beside yourself right now, especially being so far away. Please let us know how he is doing.
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Oh Starz, he is putting you through quite a scare You have my prayers. How old is he. Trust the whole team, I hope you have someone who is there for you and explaining everything to you so you aren't as afraid.
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His husband is at the hospital with him in NH keeping an eye on him day and night and keeping us in GA, well informed about what's going on. As if this evening there was no change, for better or for worse and he has about a 40% chance of pulling through. So it's not hopeless. It's not great odds but better than they could be. He'll be 66 this December 7th, which in my opinion is still way to young. And far too soon after losing his younger brother, my other uncle who was killed by a drunk driver two years ago... Not even a full two years ago.

But as his younger brother always said "what will be will be and that's all that it will be." We have no choice but to pray for the best and prep for the worst. He got to meet his great-great nephew and niece, he knows just how loved he is, and he lived a life that touched so many people working with special needs children, not only the kids themselves but gave many parents hope for their kids having some, even if it was only a tiny bit, normalcy when their physical and mental disease sought to strip it all away from them.

So he is in my prayers at least every hour, he's lived the kind of life that doesn't deserve to be snuffed out this soon, and I can only hope he has retained enough of our family's Irish tenacity to pull through.
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Your Uncle and entire family are in my prayers tonight.

Praying good days ahead for him.

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i'm sending out healing prayers for your uncle and the whole family.

it's so difficult to have a loved one that sick and in the hospital.
i hope he starts to turn the corner.

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Well it seems they have placed him in a medically induced coma in hopes of helping him beat this infection. Still no change as of last night other than that. He's hanging in there at least and the doctors are still trying to remain optimistic that he'll come out of this on top. Been spending most of my nights awake listening for the phone to ring, scared that it will and scared that I might miss the phone call if it does. My family has this thing about always dying after midnight and before 6 am EST. My other uncle was at 3 am EST, my paternal grandmother was at 2 am EST, my maternal grandmother was at 1:30 am EST, my paternal grandfather was at 4:25 am, not sure on the maternal grandfather he divorced my grandmother and fell out of touch, but willing to bet it was in the middle of the night.... of my 4 deceased great aunts all of them were in the middle of the night, my great uncles 3 of them were in the middle of the night. Heck even my great grandparents all died in the middle of the night.

No one in my family can seem to die around lunch time or dinner time. No they all have to pick the middle of the night, which basically means if my phone rings between midnight and 6 am I already know before I answer it that someone is dead, I am never called for any other reason at those times. It's just a matter of who... And with my uncle being in the hospital right now in rather critical condition, I find I just can't seem to sleep between midnight and 6 am. I pass the 6 am mark and I'm out like a light, like all the anxiety over waiting for the phone to ring is gone and I can sleep like a baby for now knowing he's going to be okay for the rest of the day, until midnight comes around... then it's back to staring down the phone.

I want so badly to go back up to NH and see him, though I know it really won't do any good and there's nothing I can do there that I can't do here, which is only pray for his recovery. And if I go up there I'll be a bit of an imposition on his husband, I mean don't get me wrong his husband is every bit my uncle and loves me dearly as I do him, but he's the sort who "HAS" to play the host. He can't just say he's going to the hospital so fend for myself on dinner, and he can't just make a simple meal either, it has to be the full course. Doesn't matter if I would be perfectly fine with a hospital hamburger, or could use the guest bath towel more than once, or can just leave my clothes in the bags... He is a host till the end just about right up to leaving a mint on your pillow every morning. So I can't go up there right now, because... well his husband needs to be with him more than his niece does and certainly more than I need a three course breakfast in the morning. And if I got a hotel room it would break both my uncles' hearts.

And so I need to survive 2 more hours of trying not to think about it, and then I'll know he's in the clear for at least another 18 hours, so I can sleep, play with the GBs and get ready for another night of insomnia. But I do hope that by the end of this week-middle of next week, we should have a better idea of how he's really doing. If he can make it to the middle of next week, he should be able to MAKE it. If not well....Then he won't. But if he does they should be pulling him out of the induced coma and start weaning him off the ventilator, providing everything goes as best as they can plan for. Then it really will come down a matter of if he can be weaned completely off the ventilator or if he'll need to stay on it. Which will bring up the next question which he'll be able to answer, is to pull the plug or keep going. At least if he pulls the plug he'll be the very first person in his family to pass away before midnight and after 6 am, for at least 3 generation. But it also will mean that all of family will get a chance to come and say good-bye to him if he so choses to pull the plug. (Almost said if he so choses, but honestly he might think he has a choice, but he really doesn't, his hospital room will be filled with family and friends non-stop till every single person has had a chance to say good-bye to him before anyone goes anywhere near a plug, I don't care it's simply unplugging a nightlight in his room.)
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Prayers for your uncle, Starz.

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Praying for you, your uncles, and the rest of your family during this particularly tough time. Peace, strength, comfort, and healing prayers for you all.
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you know starz, your comments about time of death makes me remember back to my dad's death. he was in the hospital's hospice wing.he's the one that asked to go there so we all knew what the outcome would be.

my brother and i were in FL from CO for several wks. we told his nurses we wanted to be with him at the end. well, she called us about 2AM and we raced to the hospital....but not in time.

she told us that in her experience patients don't like to actually pass with their family there, too painful. and so, many seem to pass in the middle of the nite.
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