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Old 10-01-2016, 09:07 PM #11
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My daughter's dog died sometime in the night. She got him as a foster about 6 years ago. He got into the rescue after being rescued from a very abusive home, abused by men, other dogs, a big wolf who really threw him around and just life in general. When she got him he was underweight, petrified by men, other dogs and life. She already had 2 dogs and a husband who had a lot of testosterone spirit. Together they slowly nursed and nurtured him to physical health and then she started on the socializing health. Her other dogs really helped. A full blooded boxer is not going to let another big not not play. He was a puppy and just wanted another dog to play with. The dog park she is on the board of directors of has routine seminars at the dog park by experts that comes out, observes the dogs and helps the owners. They have specific rules of behavior and even a time out pen.

Trevor slowly came out of his shell and let others in. But the damage done by the wolf and male abuse stayed with him. So he has had a lot of back pain, tumors and probably failure to thrive. The vet has been giving him steroids which has helped with the back pain. My daughter had thought of putting him down this past Thursday but the vet convinced her to give it another week. Last night when she got home from work, he had peed all over the cage which had never happened. So she gave him a bath and tried to give him some quality time. She laid down beside him in his cage, gave him a hug and kiss an went to bed. This morning when she got up he was gone. He had apparently had a seizure because of the bleeding around tongue and mouth. He had also soiled himself again, both bladder and bowel. She feels so bad that she was not there when he died. She feels so bad that she did not put him down when she wanted to instead of letting the vet give another medicine. She shut herself down and didn't want me to go over to her house, call her on the phone. Finally she called me this evening and we had a good cry and talk.

I felt so helpless as a Mom, could do nothing for my daughter when I needed to. OK, talk over
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How it hurts to comment ... I have 2 who I know are living on borrowed time. Our current dogs came to us as youngsters less than 12 months old and were rescues, none could handle or train them but my husband persevered and they have since served their country receiving defence medals on 5 yrs service. We have had 2 of them now for 10 years and the 3rd is 5 going on 6 years (gets his defence medal next month I think). The older 2 are since retired (7-8yrs) the younger still wildly active but his retirement is approaching and DB is once again on the search for new rescues to be trained. Please tell your daughter she gave her dog 6 more years of life than he would have had, she give him love, warmth and comfort, he will have died quickly with a seizure, the brain doesn't register anything while seizing so there is no pain nor awareness. The blood a sign of a bitten tongue in seizure, the soiling after he has gone and the body purging. He would not have felt anything. I can completely understand her pain and sorrow. Vets in my experience do on the whole try to do the right thing, he or she may have thought medication would help the dog to live a longer life. Sending you all love and hugs xxx
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Pamela thanks for responding although it hurt to think about the future of your own four legged members of your family. As a foster Mom and active member of her rescue group she knows because she has given the same kind of advice to other foster families. But when it is your own, as you know, it is different. She is still holding her emotions to herself, not wanting to spend much time with family or friends except her 3 other four legged family members. One of those is a black cat that she found in the engine of her car.

You should be very proud of what your rescues have provided and will continue to do so.
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Oh Doydie! I'm so sorry to read about your DD's dog. That is so sad!

Costochondritis can be quite painful!!! I don't know if you are able to take NSAIDs but those help quite a bit. Slow, gentle exercises as well as good posture help as well (which is sometimes so hard when the pain is so bad). Heat, ice, and a muscle rub or even Vicks vapor rub help as well. Does the NP think this is from your procedure?
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I can't take the antinflammatories for the whole time I am on this Effiant that you take for 365 days after a stent. The oral Prednisone has almost taken that pain away.

My daughter will be changing vets. She tried to notify the vet's office over the weekend on their email to let them know and get directive on what to do with his body. When she called them Monday they just said to bring his body in and they would take care of the body. When she took him inside, she told the receptionist why she was there. They told her to take a seat in the lobby with all the other people and dogs which some were healthy and doing what dogs do. She has to sit there and watch this while holding her dear dog. The whole time she is aware that she is sitting there holding a dead dog and other people were seeing her dead dog in a vet's office lobby. She still has not taken her other dogs to the dog park to keep their lives normal and to have the love of other dog Moms.
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Oh my, that is disgraceful behaviour, I can't fathom what your dear daughter went through, so heartbreaking to read. The pain must be excruciating. I guess vets must differ in countries. None I know of here would ever entertain such a cruel notion. Nor can I think of any when we lived in the UK.
I'm gladdened to read prednisone takes most of your pain, baby steps for now. Hugs to your daughter xx

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I can't take the antinflammatories for the whole time I am on this Effiant that you take for 365 days after a stent. The oral Prednisone has almost taken that pain away.

My daughter will be changing vets. She tried to notify the vet's office over the weekend on their email to let them know and get directive on what to do with his body. When she called them Monday they just said to bring his body in and they would take care of the body. When she took him inside, she told the receptionist why she was there. They told her to take a seat in the lobby with all the other people and dogs which some were healthy and doing what dogs do. She has to sit there and watch this while holding her dear dog. The whole time she is aware that she is sitting there holding a dead dog and other people were seeing her dead dog in a vet's office lobby. She still has not taken her other dogs to the dog park to keep their lives normal and to have the love of other dog Moms.
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Losing a pet is such a hard thing, my deepest condolences to you and your daughter. I can't even imagine sitting in a vets office with my departed pet, we've always brought them home rather than allowing the vet office to dispose of them. There are crematories for pets though, but a 4' deep hole has been our choice, the vets dispose of the bodies in local landfills down here. My aunt on the other hand has hers cremated and keeps the ashes of her loved ones. Either way every time a pet dies we swear we can't go through the heart ache again, but then another animal comes along and we've no choice but to rescue them.

Your daughter is very special to have adopted a baby from such a terrible life and hopefully can take some comfort in knowing that while his final moments might have been alone, his last years were spent happy and content knowing he was saved from a fate worse than death. Thank God for people like her saving poor souls like him.
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I just lost 2 of my cats this past August so I can relate to her pain. It's never easy.

And I hope she will report that vet's behavior and lack of professionalism. I cannot imagine anyone being so cold and uncaring as what they were to her. I'm glad to hear she is changing vets.

I took both my cats to crematories here and have their ashes in little decorative containers on my fireplace mantle. Pets deserve a respectful ending of their life.
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