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Punk :hug:

I'm so sorry you're dealing with your dad's declining health and your doggie being sick too...all on top of your own health problems.

I agree with the other's, take the extra Xanax to help you thru this. Stress is not good for your health and that's what the meds are for to help relieve the stress, either emotional or physical, to help the body.

You need to help your body stay "even", if you know what I mean. So the extra load will require some extra help.

I agree with joelelee. Maybe if you wait a little while your dog will turn out to be okay. I grew up on a farm and had many dogs. Several of which I had to nurse back to health. Some who I thought were gonna die came back to perfect health, other didn't.

You'll know what you need to do.

Sending lots of :hug: and KISSES

Kim

mornin, Punk.

time, and patience are the only things that will help.

I know it doesn't seem like it right now, and I hate to say seemingly-trite things to you now, Punk, when you're in so much anguish...

all I can offer is that I know it's true.

in a period of one year, I lost my two closest friends, and my mother.

and it was a drawn-out process, with one friend having leukemia, chemo, radiation, then brain tumors, brain surgery, and pneumonia. and a nasty divorce in the middle of it all.

the other friend had breast cancer, multiple surgeries, autologous bone-marrow transplants, chemo, radiation, infections, and a husband who took up with a fellow-teacher, and another broken family.

and my mom...a massive stroke that fried her Broca's Area, leaving her with a vocabulary of three words, and entire right side paralyzed... my sister and I moved in, and gave her full-time care, after Kaiser declared Mom wouldn't get better, (meaning they DIDN'T want to spend money on physical and speech therapy!) so, we researched it, and did it all ourselves...

and meanwhile, her husband (my step-dad) LEFT her, and yet another relationship was destroyed by the stress of major illness...

for three *years* Mom got more and more words, and was starting to have a decent life, when hammer #3 struck, stage 3 lung cancer, swift decline, followed by pneumonia, and there wasn't even TIME to do chemo and radiation...

and during all this, my sister was struggling with bipolar, and I had worsening MS.

after losing both friends, and my mom, I declined into hermit-hood, and a deep depression, gaining 70 pounds, and living in sadness and misery.

so yeah, Punk, stress, anxiety, anger, hurt, they all add up.

then, I got a HUMDINGER of an MS flare, and blammo, in a wheelchair, dislocated shoulder, numb from nose-to-toes, whole right side useless for months.

it took TIME, and patience, and LOTS of tears, to get past all of it.

hang in there, hang on with your FINGERNAILS if you must, but I say, it CAN be done!

after a few years, the depression and anger finally faded, and I tapered off all the meds, and the excess weight melted off.

didn't mean to go on and on about my problems during that disastrous period, just wanted to share with you that... even though you can't SEE it now, there eventually WILL be light at the end of the tunnel!

:hug::grouphug::hug:

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Originally Posted by joellelee2000 (Post 213565)

You are not a sissy in any way! You would be cold person if you didn't feel the way you do right now.

amen, Joelle!

and well said!

:hug: I'm so sorry to hear about all that's going on right now. I wish I had some words of wisdom.

Our fur babies can be like our kids sometimes, so being upset over their conditions are not unusual.

Take care of yourself, and hang in there.

I'm so sorry you have so much on you, right now. Sometimes it seems more than we can handle.

My dad has alzheimers also. They first dx'd him with Parkinson's and Alzheimers. After messing around with his meds for a while, they sent him to a specialist. They ran all the tests again and said he did not have Parkinson's. They said that Alzheimers can cause your hands to shake. So the signs they first thought of as parkinsons was really the Alzheimers.

I'm wondering if the Alzheimers is progressing, if the shaking hands is really just a symptom of that and not a stroke.

It was just a thought.

Hang in there.
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I'm sorry to hear all that you are going through. Know that you are surrounded by friends here and we are all keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

:hug: Susan

I'm sorry you are dealing with so much at once :hug::hug::hug:.

I'll keep ou and your dad and your pooch in my prayers!

I'm sorry you are having such a tough time right now. :hug:

You're not a wuss.....you're human.......and yeah, being human can suck too. My dog is like my child, I don't know what I'd do in the same situation. There's really no right answer, I wish I could help you out, my heart is breaking for you and you dog. Also for you and your father. I have had family members very close to me who have also battled the disease. It is a nasty, greedy disease. I wish I could offer more, but if you need support, you got it! Hang in there Punk!~~~Jess

I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now. My Mom had Alzheimer's and it was heartbreaking as she gradually forgot who I was. In the end I was just someone she'd occasionally give a big hug and kiss to, with no recognition but just pure unselfish love. Then there were the times she'd push me away when I tried to feed her...

If our cat Rocky became seriously ill it would just tear me up. I'm so sorry about your dog. :(

It's essential that even the tough guys share their feelings. You did the right thing coming here.