That song is really playing in my head today. Just got off the phone with mom and boy is she reeling with negativity!

Everything is going fine, her SS is going to come through, her LTD is going to come through, even the apartment is going through. Yet, for some reason not fast enough for her.

She is worried about not getting the apartment because she has to know her exact income by Friday and hasn't heard from anyone. I told her to try to relax and let the apartment go and wait for the next one. She can come stay with us, which she is anyway until the apartment goes through. If she doesn't get the one she wants due to income limits, there are other apartments. Nope, not good enough.

I know she just needs to vent, I really know that. But dang woman!

So, I am singing...

Let the sunshine, let the sunshine in,
The sunshine in...
Let the sunshine, let the sunshine in,
The Sunshine in...
Let the sunshine, let the sunshine in,
The sunshine in...

Hmmm, maybe I will sing this to her when she calls me back after speaking to SS. lol

Hello Sandy,
I think that's a very common attitude among many of the people our parents' ages. Unfortunately, they begin to see their health decline along with their friends, and it's difficult for them to see the glass half full (if I may). Let her vent, and be patient, I'm sure it will all work out eventually. You're a good daughter, and although she may not tell you that, she knows it in her .

All the best,
Chris

No doubt, your Mom is dealing w/stress right now, Sandy. I remember both my parent's and gr parents wanting everything structured in their life. (Mom much more so than Dad) My Mother would know exactly how much a bill would be and have the check out the door the same day it came in the mail.

I'm kind of a worry wart myself, so can relate a little.

Keep singing. You don't sound too bad!

Tis better than that constant dancing of yours.

Sandy

I'm not sure how old your Mom is but, dealing with everything she has been in the past year is bound to make her "cranky". My Dad was the same way as he got older. Just like DM's Mom..had to have structure and no deviations from it!!

Also, the fear of the unknown is probably alot of it. I know it's hard. I used to just bite my tongue when he'd start in with his list of negativities.

I hope everything works out for her and goes smoothly. She (as well as you) deserves a break.

Thanks everyone! Jim warned her if she doesn't stop he's going to have a talk with her. I think that made her calm down. Ooooooo, big bad Jim's gonna get her! lol

She's calmed a bit since I wrote this. I had to tell her bye when she got really bad. She called back in a much better tone. I told her I understand how frustrating it is and that I'd be the same way. Yet, I reminded her that those friends, loved ones and family that she is yelling/complaining to are not the blame. She said she knows this but it's so hard.

I gently told her that when she needs something she can't possibly expect everyone to drop their lives to come running. For example, she wanted to go see her friends this past weekend. They said they would meet my sister in a town nearby and pick my mom up later that night, after they finished their plans. My mom got upset and told them to forget it. She was upset because they couldn't do it right away. She's used to going out and driving herself everywhere so this is where that is coming from.

BTW, she is only 64. I think it's harder on her because she is so young and didn't expect to become disabled so quickly. I am still holding on to the faith that she'll heal each day and be back on track in the future. Some say it could be three years before she fully heals from the brain surgery.

Anyway, it will all work out in the end I am sure. I have a full bottle of zanax nearby just in case. And no, not for mom. lol

now, Sandy ... you're not singing that song like Ozzy would, are you?? LOL

mom's just want to be mom's ...

No way! LOL

ha ha ... see! I gotcha laughing ...and remember - that when you laugh, endorphins are released in the brain ... and the stress is gone ... and things will work out!!

You know what makes me feel really good? Hell's Kitchen! If those chefs can make it past Gordon Ramsey, this stuff with mom is a piece of cake! Jim and I bed dance to the opening song. lol

Fire (uh) (uh)
Fire (it's all about)(uh, uh)
Fire (woo, woo, woo)
Fire

The way you walk and talk really sets me off
To a full alarm, child, yes, it does, uh
The way you squeeze and tease, knocks to me my knees
‘Cause I'm smokin', baby, baby

Fire (uh) (uh)
Fire (it's all about)(uh, uh)
Fire (woo, woo, woo)
Fire




*It's 1:17am, what did you expect?*