[GladysD]

Hi All

Well, I am happy to report that I am alive and well. Let's see, got denied for my SSDI application...which is kind of a relief.

I left my DH for 10 days back in May. Woke up one morning and didn't feel well, we'd been on the rocks going into that time period, and I packed up the kids and off to my mom's we went. In that small amount of time I learned lots and lots and lots about myself. So much so, that the day after mother's day I found myself calling my dh on the phone and going home. He told me he'd stop drinking if we did, and it's been a good thing since.

Of course, my mother wasn't too thrilled about my leaving. And it has created an immense friction between us. Some things were said during that time period that I was over there have created a rift for us. I'm going to start therapy in August, so I've told her that I wanted to put 'us'(her & I) on hold until I got to that point. I realized there were a great deal of unresolved issues from the past that are lingering still to this day. Along with a style of relationship that isn't condusive to my happiness. imho, the control patterns need to change.

Recently had a 'virtual' on-line family squabble with some members of dh's family. I stated some feelings that I held for someone and that infuriated a couple of people...it was intense and the embers are still there. Then this morning, after this wonderful on-line display of family dysfunction, my own cousin posted a scathing comment about how they 'see it.' I'm now 'null' to them...*sigh*.....

Well, I've noticed more of this alienation occurring since I've declared my home alcohol-free. Maybe that's part of it???

Well I just wanted to say Hello! I'll try to be around more often...Thanks for Listening...and just reading....

[Kitty]

Originally Posted by GladysD

Hi All

Well, I am happy to report that I am alive and well. Let's see, got denied for my SSDI application...which is kind of a relief.

I left my DH for 10 days back in May. Woke up one morning and didn't feel well, we'd been on the rocks going into that time period, and I packed up the kids and off to my mom's we went. In that small amount of time I learned lots and lots and lots about myself. So much so, that the day after mother's day I found myself calling my dh on the phone and going home. He told me he'd stop drinking if we did, and it's been a good thing since.

Of course, my mother wasn't too thrilled about my leaving. And it has created an immense friction between us. Some things were said during that time period that I was over there have created a rift for us. I'm going to start therapy in August, so I've told her that I wanted to put 'us'(her & I) on hold until I got to that point. I realized there were a great deal of unresolved issues from the past that are lingering still to this day. Along with a style of relationship that isn't condusive to my happiness. imho, the control patterns need to change.

Recently had a 'virtual' on-line family squabble with some members of dh's family. I stated some feelings that I held for someone and that infuriated a couple of people...it was intense and the embers are still there. Then this morning, after this wonderful on-line display of family dysfunction, my own cousin posted a scathing comment about how they 'see it.' I'm now 'null' to them...*sigh*.....

Well, I've noticed more of this alienation occurring since I've declared my home alcohol-free. Maybe that's part of it???

Well I just wanted to say Hello! I'll try to be around more often...Thanks for Listening...and just reading....

Glad to have you back....I missed seeing your posts!

Family drama is never fun.....just remember that you can come here and vent all you want and nobody is going to judge you.

[GladysD]

Originally Posted by herekitty1960

..just Remember That You Can Come Here And Vent All You Want And Nobody Is Going To Judge You.

Thanks So Much For This!!! It"s The Judgements That Are Just Getting Over-the-top

[tamiloo]

So good to see you back...I knew someone was missing

[Annelee]

Gladys,

Hope it will all work out. Sounds like you are on the right track. Kudos for looking of help and also being honest with your mother.

All the best

[weegot5kiz]

gladys glad you are back sorry the road you traveled lately has been real rough, booze free is a good idea, if he can live with it, hopefully mom will lighten up a bit on you while you adjust, i wish you the best missed ya


peace

[MSacorn]

Gladys
Good to have you back. The family drama sounds intense. I'm proud of you and dh working things out. The alcohol is the others family members issue and they will have to resolve over time.

It's hard to accept change, but you are on a good path. I hope you and your mom can resolve your difference down the line. Seeing someone is a great idea.

You didn't mention your health, so I hope it stays on track. Keeping you in my thoughts.

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