As someone said earlier in a post above, it does get easier. I lost my dad 14 yrs ago on the 7th of July and my Mom 11 yrs ago on March 8. I know how my heart was torn out when they passed, I can't even imagine losing my dh.
My thoughts & prayers are out to you. He will always live in your heart and you will always have the memories.

I'm sorry that I've only just seen this post Kelly, but I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you, and I'm pleased that happy memories are now taking the place of the grief that you once did feel.

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Hi Kelly I'm so sorry I didn't see this yesterday . I've been hiding in my own misery a lot lately since my mom died. I know he's proud of you! I am too . You are one tough lady . I hope I get to the place you are someday .

Oh Kelly Hope all is well for you....Can't imagine this yet...but it scares the hell outta me to think it.

I understand completely !
Coming up on six years (December 7th) anniversary of losing my husband.

Over the years, unfortunately (or fortunately), I have become somewhat desensitized to losing people I love, at least after the initial shock and heart-wrenching grief wears off. I know the loss of my children would be a different story (GOD forbid!), but I learned early on about the concept of the "circle of life".

I have faith that I will meet these people again, and they passed for a reason beyond my comprehension. Why I am still here; what my "purpose" is . . . I haven't figured out yet. I guess I still have some work to do here ....

I'm sorry for your loss, Kelly, but I am glad the pain has lessened over time. We never forget though, that's for sure.

Cherie

Thanks, GJ, I'm doing very well.....but you make a good point. It is scary and when it happens unexpectedly it can really rip the rug right out from under you.

Which is why everyone needs to plan for the future. It's no fun to do this, but assume that tomorrow you will be in this situation. Do you have everything under control? Do you know where your insurance policies are? Have you looked at your employer provided life insurance lately? Make sure that your spouse or desired family member is listed as the beneficiary. Make sure that you have a POA so that your bank accounts can be accessed. Make sure you know what's happening financially with your spouse - especially if you have separate checking and/or credit card accounts. Unless you are listed somewhere on the account you will not have access to this money.

Most important, though, is make sure that you and your spouse have your final wishes documented and in a place that each of you knows to look.

Believe me, when the unthinkable happens it's not the time to be making financial decisions or looking for documents. You'll feel much better if you know that everything is in a central location that's easily accessed.

Hello Kelly,
I'm sorry I wasn't able to log in yesterday. I cleared out my cookies and forgot my password. Anyway, I wanted to share with you something my Mum used to say to us when we were younger. She told us that,"memories are made to make the heart bigger". I think they have in your case. You have an enormous heart, and it shows.

All the best to you now and always,

Chris

A day late and a dollar short! Sorry I wasn't online much yest, so didn't see your thread till now, Kell.

Your post reinforces to me what I've known for a while. You are a strong, kind and loving person, who has suffered and lost.....

But, your'e always here for everyone else. I just know your DH is smiling down at you and saying "Atta girl". Thanks for being YOU, Kell!

Hey Kelly - you are a beautiful person for remembering another in all circumstances ... I'm here for ya!!