I've been thinking about this a lot lately and wondering if I'm alone in the way I feel.

I love people, love being around people and always enjoyed my job where I was around lots of people all day.

Since I've been on disability (3 months now) I have come to love my solitude. I love being at home all by myself (well, the cats are here but no other people). My boys are in and out but for the most part they are gone 90% of the time (they work and then have their social lives).

Does anyone else here find that they cherish their "alone time"?

1000000%, Kell! Contrary to what most people think, I'm really a very mellow, thinking kind of person. I even prefer to travel alone if that says anything about it. I also love people, enjoy the comings and goings of friends and family but very much appreciate my alone time.

I don't like to be isolated, that's different, but there is something wonderful about eating alone in a restaurant, or having coffee with a book or my journal at a sidewalk cafe, or just doing my deskwork all in total solitude.

When I finished college, I vowed I'd never have another roommate again and succeeded until my mom died and Dad was in need of company. I avoid him like the plague!

I know I do enjoy my solitude. I'm good company to myself.

Watch for becoming isolated it happens without realizing it. That is not good either. Been there, done that.

I seek out the security of my family and although they are loud and exhausting, I find comfort in their chaos. I also know when enough is enough and retreat to the solidude of my room.

Thoughtful question, thanks.
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If I didn't love solitude, I'd be a crummy military wife I cherish my alone-time. I only have to think about me, me, me and what makes me happy. I do what I want, when I want. I adore my DH and we have a wonderful, happy life. We enjoy doing things together, but when he leaves, he's also happier knowing that I am fully capable of entertaining myself.

It's not even so much that I'm making the best of a bad situation, I truly enjoy being by myself. I do make sure that I get together with friends, but some days, I really just want to do my own thing.

Yes, yes, a million times yes. In my younger, healthier years, I hated being alone. I always had to have something going...people to see and places to go, but now, I love my alone time.

I am not at all isolated...family and a few friends, are all there for me and they respect my feelings.

Good question, Kell..

I have been totally alone monday thru friday going on 1 and a half years....

I enjoy it because being sick these outside influences would drive me out of my mind........But sometimes when I am so bad I can't move to even go to the bathroom....That is when I miss people around.....

I had many friends on the force....But when they realized to themselves I would not be getting well anytime soon...These same took off....Sometimes I feel bad about that....Other times I am treated as I may be contagious.....For that I feel bad.....

But in all this me time....I have gotten re introduced to myself.....Its been an experience.......I have learned much about others and my self thru my solitary confinement.......

nice thread.....gets one thinking..

I love having the house to ourselves. I love having the boys home but love to see them go back to school too! See, Jim and I have our mornings and our nights. But in between we have our "alone" time. The time to pray, nap, clean, take care of those things that need to be done alone or only by me or Jim. Jim and I are much the same and allow each other solitude.

We also take awhile to get up and going and some people don't understand it. Sometimes it's just easier to be alone I guess. Our closest friends and family are cool though. They never ask questions or have expectations.

The boys are getting the same way I think. lol When Jim and I say we are going away for a few days their little faces light up! hahahaha

Solitude - where can I find some? I guess I'm at a point in my life where solitude is hard to find, but I do love it. With two boys and a Grandma in the house, I don't have solitude anymore.

I guess it's all OK, though. This time is precious and I will want it back when it is over. I'll have time later for solitude, but it would be nice to find some alone time every now and then.

I think I would like solitude....I dont have much right now. But when I
am screaming inside for solitude, I try to remember that there will be
plenty of time for it in the future and Ill probably miss all this company
then.

You're right, Holly. I remember when my boys were much younger and we had a busy, hectic schedule. School, soccer, work, etc. Seemed like there was never any "downtime". But I loved it and it was all I knew. Plus, there wasn't an option for "slow" at that point in my life.

I wouldn't give up those days for anything. But, I'm thankful I don't have to accommodate that kind of schedule now...not sure what I'd do!