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Old 11-16-2008, 08:00 AM #11
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I've gone through empty nest syndrome several times...when my youngest, the only girl, left for college in a neighboring state, I went into therapy...it helped me so much.
She's decided to stay up in Wis... but she visits often, and calls a few times a week.
My second son has never come home to live once he graduated...he's now in Baltimore with his wife working on his PhD...doesn't call much, only see him 1-2 times a year.
The other two sons live in the area...each has moved back home at one time or another...unfortunately, once I'd gotten used to an empty house and actually enjoyed it.
We now call our house a bed and breakfast.

I can only tell you to allow yourself to grieve for awhile...then it's time to find out who YOU are...we do live through our kids, and their friends...it actually makes it harder when they fly away...
that's why you need to find out about you now...take classes, join a bible study group, book club, photography, computer classes, all these things that will make your brain grow...
good luck...
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]. . . I can only tell you to allow yourself to grieve for awhile...[/COLOR]then it's time to find out who YOU are...we do live through our kids, and their friends...it actually makes it harder when they fly away...
that's why you need to find out about you now...take classes, join a bible study group, book club, photography, computer classes, all these things that will make your brain grow...
good luck...
Too much grief!

I'm already grieving losing the third job since 2002, due to MS, and now going on disability. Because I am no longer employed, I have picked up some volunteering (as I said, church, and elementary school. Also, a couple of nursing homes.) And, I'm active in church in other ways as well; we have a lot of support there.

Taking classes is not in our budget, with our now reduced income, and 2 kids in college next year. Also, I just can't hardly justify taking classes that cannot lead to furthering a career that no longer exists.

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. . . I can only tell you to allow yourself to grieve for awhile...then it's time to find out who YOU are...we do live through our kids, and their friends...it actually makes it harder when they fly away...
that's why you need to find out about you now...take classes, join a bible study group, book club, photography, computer classes, all these things that will make your brain grow...
good luck...
Too much grief!

I'm already grieving losing the third job since 2002, due to MS, and now going on disability. Because I am no longer employed, I have picked up some volunteering (as I said, church, and elementary school. Also, a couple of nursing homes.) And, I'm active in church in other ways as well; we have a lot of support there.

Taking classes is not in our budget, with our now reduced income, and 2 kids in college next year. Also, I just can't hardly justify taking classes that cannot lead to furthering a career that no longer exists.

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Well, we did it. We dropped DD off at the airport. We met in the youth room at church before we left with anyone who wished to pray and send her off. And, of course, I cried.

Silly me!

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And, of course, I cried.

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DD called last night to let us know she made it, her luggage made it, etc. Her gate was easy to find at the Dallas airport when she changed planes. No problems with flight.

In the volunteer house, she is in a room with 2 bunk beds. There was one roommate today, and two more should be arriving tomorrow.

Her roommate happens to be from my hometown, in Canada, which is over 2000 miles from New Orleans. Kind of a cool coinicidence.

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That IS a great coincidence.

As they say, the Lord works in mysterious ways.
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