[Blessings2You]

You know how you tell people you can't do this or that, or go someplace, and their eyes glaze over when you try to explain: "Well, I have this crushing fatigue, see, and the seats make my legs spasm, and I never know when I'm going to lose control of my body functions and there might be somebody in the one bathroom, and all the noise and lights boggle my brain, and....."

Or else they try to "help" with advice or well-intentioned offers, when they don't really understand the problem? As in, "Well, we can come pick you up, then you won't have to drive". Or whatever.

Well, yes, sometimes you just don't tell them anything, say pooey on them, and just stay home. But I think I'm going to try something, especially on "certain" people:

When I've said "No, I can't" and it's the natural time for an explanation, I think I'll just get sort of a semi-kind, semi-patronizing expression on my face, maybe pat the person's arm and gently, in a vague sort of way, say, "It's an MS thing. You......wouldn't understand."

Then either change the subject or just walk (hobble) away. What do you think? I win and they lose. If it works out right.