[braingonebad]

This is Jadison, my 2.5 yr old granddaughter, whom I love with all my heart. My only grandchild.

Her parents have been divorced for a year now.

Her mom has a hx of domestic violence and overdose. She was awarded custody, but still, asked that we watched Jadi 3-4 days a week.
Last July, she called me, had taken a handful of pills - in her own words - and said it was too much, so she was leaving the state to be with her BF (also her cousin).

My son filed for custody, and Jadi's mom came back to town one week before the pre-hearing, with BF, to stay at her mom's house.

All the while she was gone, she had been collecting child support - which she has spent, who knows on what. She has only had one job in her life, back before she went out of state, for a few weeks.

The guy she is with has been in so much trouble, even his family says to keep him away from Jadi AND her mom.

Okay, all of that, you might hear as gossip in any custody thing. But Jadi's mom knows she is not in good standing in this case, what having left for 8 months and all. She is desperate, so she called CPS and filed molestation charges.

From what I know, CPS went to talk to my son and they seem to think he is doing fine raising her and there is nothing to be concerned about. But Jadi's mom alleges my dd's bf did something to the baby. I have known this boy for three years, and he has never been in any trouble. If I thought for one second he did anything to my Jadison, ttrust me, he'd have more to worry about than CPS - he'd be dealing with ME first. And you all know me well enough to believe that.

Where Jadi's mother is staying, with HER mom, all kinds of people are going in and out - she has a teen brother, all his friends who are constantly in trouble, her mom and all her barfly bf's - who molested her kids over the years - not to mention baby's mom, and all the guys she had been with since the divorce.

So what does CPS decide? They say for now, Jadi can only be with my son or Jadi's mom or her mom. Because dd's bf lives with us, she cannot be here.

I cannot see her until the investigation is over. If that child has been molested - and I pray to God she has not!_ it was at THAT house - and that's where CPS wants her to be. All the time when her daddy is working, she is right there with them.

And it would be bad enough if her mother was doing this because she desparately wanted her child - but she only wants to hurt my son. If she wanted her daughter that badly, she never would have abandonned her to begin with.

Constant, constant drama with her.

Things like this could eat you up alive.

How will CPS know WHO is in that house?

All I can think is I hope all this backfires and they find that she is making false accusations. Can she go to jail for that? If anything did happen to Jadi, we will never know WHO did it, there are TOO many people over there who are like that!

Anyway, please keep this poor little girl in your thoughts. All I want is for her to be safe.


Thank you all.

[soxmom]

prayers for the baby Cathy.

It seems to me if there are false allegations found....its a complete
waste of precious time which could be spent on children who need it.

fortunately ,they take molestation allegations seriously.
I hope they find your granddaughter has been safe.

hugs Cathy......im sorry that you and yours have to go thru so
much drama.

[TwoKidsTwoCats]

Cathy, I know your heart is hurting big time over this. Your granddaughter will be in my prayers.

I really hate when a parent plays these games against their own child... because that is who they are ultimately hurting when they "can't get along".... I have a similar family drama that thankfully hasn't escalated to CPS involvement yet, just threats by the noncustodial parent....

[ewizabeth]

Aw Brain,

I'm so sorry the poor little girl is going through this. Also for your son and you.

You must be so worried. I'd be sick over this.

Take good care of yourself and try to relax as much as you can...

[Kitty]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. It's always the children who pay the biggest price for all the drama. I know this is breaking your heart and you're all in my prayers. Surely those in the right will prevail in this. Sometimes the "systems" rules seem like a bunch of red tape that takes the focus off the real problem. I pray that the truth comes out and that this little girl is able to go permanently with your son.

[hollym]

Oh, Cathy!! That is horrendous. I will pray for her.

I hope they find the allegations to be false (very quickly!) and bring her up on charges for filing a false report!

I have heard too much about this girl over the last couple of years and she is in no way a fit parent. This further proves that. I am so, so sorry you have to deal with this and I pray that NO ONE ever touched that baby.

[Dejibo]

prayers for the family being raised.

[AfterMyNap]

You got 'em, Brain.

Doesn't CPS have to do frequent impromptu home visits when there are allegations? Maybe you could encourage them to adhere closely to their own policies.

At any rate, I'll just pray and hope that the whole truth comes to light quickly. Hang in there, Cathy.

[SallyC]

Prayers for you and your dear Grandbaby, Brain. I hope it all turns out what is best for the child.

[DM]

AW Cath~ I'm so sorry to hear this. That little one is so adorable and her eyes just make me melt. I agree that CPS should keep close tabs on this case; hopefully the truth will come out soon. It's just so unfair to keep her loving Grandma away from her.

Hang in there Cath~ I'm praying for little Jadi, you and your DS.