[legzzalot]

So I decided after I got home and realized I hadn't taken anything out for dinner that tonight would be a good date night. DD is at her dads and life has been crazy here for the last month or so. I can't remember the last time we went out aside from the trip to KY.

Stupid girl that I am I decide to send the fiance a message and let him know I am taking him out to dinner. I go upstairs, shower, shave, get dressed, do my makeup.........'


And I am SO TIRED!!! Oh my god, do men realize how much crap we have to do as women to be public ready?? I am exhausted. I don't like what I am wearing but I don't have the energy to go back upstairs and change. My hair is still in a ponytail waiting for me to at least brush it which also requires moving. Plus the lightening bolts down my spine are irritating me when I try to brush me hair.

I answered the phone today and forgot I have this stupid disease. I attempted to cradle the phone between my head and my shoulder.That was fun.

I really want a nice romantic evening, I need a nice romantic evening, but I swear to you I don't know if I am going to make it out of the house.

And why do I have to paint my face and curl my hair and shave half my body and wear perfume and adorn myself in jewels and find just the right shirt?
Why does my fiance come home, change out of his uniform and ask me why I look so tired and if I am ready to go?

[Kitty]

Chances are he doesn't even realize how much you go through to look nice for him. Men just aren't programmed like that. I used to have to point out things (like my hair or something new I was wearing) to my DH.....he just didn't notice stuff like that. The important thing is that you get to be with him. You get to spend an evening with him. Go out (or stay home ) and have fun!

[Dejibo]

I say next time you leave him a message that you have candles burning, and the table set, could he please stop off and pick up xyx? Call a fancy restaurant, and have them make up a to go package for a nice eve at home. This way you can hang out in your ratty undies, and uncombed hair, and I bet your hunny will still think the sun shines out of your ears. Many nice places offer to go or pick up service. I say let him pick it up!

I hope you have fun going out.

[Erin524]

I dont get to do romantic evenings or dates all that often with the boyfriend.

Before the MS slammed into me, which was basically the first two years I knew him, and we werent exactly romantically involved yet, I was the type of person who would at the very least do something nice with my hair (it was longer then) and I'd put on earrings. (dont do makeup...allergic to most)

Now he's lucky that I at least take a shower, wash my hair and shave my legs.

My hair is still kind of long (about shoulder length depending on how many months it's been since I got a haircut) but it's a heck of a lot shorter than it used to be. (used to be to the middle of my back)

I dont pull it up anymore, now I'm just a wash, comb and dry the hair person.

I'd like to do more stuff with my hair, my arms and hands just get so tired that it takes me too long to do anything with it. So I gave up the pretty braids and pony tails.

I wear jeans and t-shirts on most of our dates (mostly because I dont have many fancy clothes...to me now, fancy is a clean t-shirt)

I'm probably going to go to the zoo with my boyfriend in a couple of weeks. I may have to forego the shaving of the legs that day so that I'll have the energy to walk around the zoo a bunch. (thank goodness for a pre-paid zoo pass...I can get into the zoo without paying and that leaves me enough $$ to pay for tram and train rides to get around the zoo)

[Aarcyn]

oh, your post made me so sad. I am so sorry MS hurts the romance.

I do like Dejibo's suggestion. Candlelight, soft music, eating in front of a fire wearing nothing at all.

[legzzalot]

We did make it to dinner. And it was amazing! Worth every penny. It was nice to get out of the house. We decided to skip the movies since he had to get up at 3:30 this morning for work.

Dinner was so good in fact that I emailed the restaurant this morning. The waitress was great, the food was out of this world, and I think it was the first time in over a year we have been out that no one screwed up our order. It was very nice.

He was happy to see me out of the jeans and t shirt, or the old man pj's I normally wear.

In the end it was all worth it.

[TXBatman]

Not to be sacreligous or anything, but I do have to offer the man's perspective. It is possible that the reason he mentioned that you looked tired was because he didn't want to "make you go out to dinner" if you were tired and not feeling up to it. We are indeed guilty many times of the sin of not understanding the full implications of our words, but just because they come across as uncaring sometimes doesn't mean there wasn't concern or empathy in their intent.