Bad Karma! One day, she or a close family member or friend will suffer an illness - it's a given as we age. I imagine it won't be as easy for her to "get over it" as she will probably not have much sympathy or concern from the rest of her friends and family. After all what type of person would hang with her?!

Oddly, she's probably jealous of you. My SIL is green with envy, she wants all attention on her and no better way than an incurable illness. When I was diagnosed my bf said "oh, Julie is gonna be so jealous!" Sure enough. We laugh at her as she can be quite snide, and she is teh butt of some jokes. But I don't think I would laugh at her if my family wasn't by my side laughing along.

My sister has the same attitude as your cafe friend, and trust me, she is MISERABLE! She cant figure out why no friends last longer than a couple of weeks. Why no man will stay longer than a month. Why co workers wont invite her out to eat with them, and why her now grown children shun her. She speaks the same way to them. Her daughter has severe asthma, and she keeps telling her to "stop whining, and get up." even when she is dusky blue. I have held several conversations with her, that were cut to the point, and ...nope, she thinks the rest of the world is gonna turn someday and see how lovely she is, and be sad that they missed out on something great. It breaks my heart to see her sit alone at the cafe, to sit alone at the movies, to sit alone on a saturday night, when she is a nice looking woman. She doesnt handle being alone well, but has burned through more people than she can count. No one backs up and gives her a second chance. It really is heart breaking that she cant/wont even give 2 seconds of thought to the fact that SHE is the one being mean, judgemental, rude, condesending, and concieted. She will spend the rest of her life chasing love, affection, and support. Can you imagine going through life with NO support?

YOU on the other hand have tons of love, support, affection, and a whole room full of us that are willing to travel cross country to just sit and have lunch with you. Please continue to count YOUR blessings, and see this woman with new eyes. its truly sad to see someone so twisted, and so lost that she would rather DIE than have the courage to face something difficult. she cant even face someone else that IS facing something difficult. How horrible to life a life that fearful.

I would rather live the rest of my life in YOUR shoes, then the next year in hers.

[quote=kicker;489522]And when these Sociopaths and/or Psychotic people do something every one (neighbot especially) say "he was so nice" "He looked so normal". All my disgnosed Sociopathic/Psyhchotic students sure did. Some looked so good.

)Ted Bundy was a nice guy...everybody liked him..

I feel blessed for having this disease. I always look at life as if I didn't do what I did, I wouldn't be where I am. My disease isn't something you would want on purpose. But, like my dad always said "The deck has been dealt; play your hand the best you can".


After finally being diagnosed with this, I did have a pity party but it sure wasn’t an all nighter. I have to be strong; I have to be strong for my brother. He’s 100% dependent on a pace maker and is in heart failure. He’s doing okay right now but what does tomorrow hold?



I do feel blessed for having to rethink myself. I feel "lucky" that I can look at life through a different set of eyes. So many people spend their days just "Living" and judging and never stopping to really think how many blessings they do have. Where ever this disease takes me, I will go on adjusting around it, and feeling blessed.


It really makes me sad to hear people complain about the simplest and stupidest things. If only they could hear themselves. Not to appreciate the fact that they can get up, walk to the door, walk to the store, walk anywhere. Even though, in a way, I feel sorry for this lady, her words hurt me so bad. I wake up thinking about it, thinking is that what everyone else is saying?