[Erin524]

My dad just accused me having "roid rage" because I'm irritated that they went out for breakfast without me...my mom had been talking about going out to breakfast all weekend and that we were all going to go.

I woke up today, thinking that we were going to be going out for breakfast. I went upstairs, and my parents were home, so I asked when we were going to leave.

My dad goes..."oh, we already ate.". I was thinking that they decided not go to out and ate at home. A few minutes later I found out that they went out to breakfast without me, and without asking if I wanted to go.

So, I'm a little ticked. When I asked my dad why he didnt ask me if I wanted to go. He said, "oh, I did ask you. I yelled down the stairs just before we left".

My mom said that he didnt bother going downstairs to see if I heard him. (my bedroom door was closed. I cant hear them from downstairs with the door closed. They cant hear me if I were to yell from downstairs to the upstairs either)

Being a little ticked off, I asked my dad why he didnt come downstairs and ask me, he started yelling at me that I'm all "roid raged".

No. I'm not 'roid raged. I'm offended that he immediately assumes that just because I happened to have some steroids last week that any anger that I display is going to be due to the steroids. The anger I'm displaying is natural hurt at being told all weekend that we were all going to go out to this "special" restaurant for breakfast and when the day came, my dad didnt even bother to include me.

Now I'm hungry and offended.

I just dont like the way my dad will use hormones as an excuse for anyone female being mad. (he's used that excuse before when there were no steroids involved)...now that I've had an infusion of steroids, he's going to blame any grumpiness I get on the steroids.

I actually thought that the steroids seemed to have a calming effect on me. I've not kvetched at my mom for her incessant humming for over a week, and I thought I was being pleasant to everyone until he started to throw the "roid rage" crap at me.

[Dejibo]

it sounds like dad had some bad behavior, and isnt doing well at being cornered on it. He finds it easier to find the fault in YOU vs the fault in him. Pure and simple dad goofed. Roids or no roids, he SHOULD have gone down, and gotten a yes or no reply from you. An answer of silence indicates that he was NOT heard, and he should not have continued on his journey till he got a response.

You have every right to be upset, but it sounds like dad isnt going to bend on this one, and you may be banging your head against the wall, and just getting frustrated to try to fight your battle on that one.

Make sure when tempers have calmed, that you make an agreement with BOTH parents, that SILENCE IS NOT AN ANSWER. Make sure that goes both ways, and that you dont take their silence as an answer in the future either.

now, go make some yummy toast, with butter, and jelly, and a nice cup of tea, sit in your PJs and watch crap on TV.

[Erin524]

I had a candy bar. There isnt any food in the house that doesnt require actual cooking before eating.

Other than the candy bar, I havent had anything to eat, and my head hurts now. I did go to the exercise place with my dad to use my membership that I bought the day before my vision went all fubar. Finally got to use the membership, probably have to renew the stupid thing in a couple of days tho.

My dad is going to take us out to dinner. Apparently to make up for my not getting anything to eat today and him not actually asking me earlier about breakfast.

I could probably have held out for someplace really fancy (greek food! but my favorite restaurant is closed for a month while they're in Greece. the other greek places are downtown) but since I have a headache and dont want to go too far from home, I suggested Applebees. They have food there that I would consider comfort food. So, as soon as my dad gets dressed to go I'll be able to go get some mashed potatoes with cheese and bacon in it. (not sure what to have to go with that, I just know I want mashed potatoes really badly)

I drove my dad and I home from the exercise place...without a patch on my eye! I can see!!! wow...those steroids worked a little faster than I thought they would!

I still seem to have some trouble tracking things with my eye, and I have to close that eye to look to the left to check traffic at the stop signs, but I wasnt getting the double images of everything. (well, if I looked way far off into the distance, and dont really concentrate, things split off)

At least I dont need that stupid patch on my eye today. It could be wonky again tomorrow, but this is the best improvement I've had so far. Yay for steroids! (boo for people who assume that just because you're on steroids and grumpy that it's 'roid rage...I think if it were real 'roid rage, I'd have been a lot less coherent and probably wanting to throw things thru windows)

Now if I could just get rid of the headache that I have. At least walking for a half hour on a treadmill, listening to a Stargate Atlantis audio drama was a lot less boring than sitting and playing Sims3 for 4 hours. (my Sim died last night!!! )

[FaithS]

Probably. My DH does similar things, and gets hypervigilant about stuff.

Sunday, he decided to have a "talk" with me, because he thought that I might be in the initial stages of an MS flare. My flare symptoms are a-typical, and tend to include manic thoughts and behavior.

What?

Because I had trouble sleeping, and was up somewhat during the night, made one more comment than usual during Sunday School, and swayed slightly to the music during the contemporary worship service during church (which I often do, if it's an upbeat song that I enjoy), he thought that those were "changes" from usual, and might indicate the beginning of some mania? (When I'm manic, I don't sleep a lot, have excess energy, and am more "busy", out-going, talkative, etc. Sometimes very excessively.)

By the next day, when there were no more signs or alarming changes, he backed down and acknowledged that there had been no reason for concern. However, I should be "grateful" that he keeps an eye on things, so that, if there HAD been a problem, we could've caught it early.

Sigh!

Not exactly the same thing, Erin. But, I get it. Sometimes, family members want to use MS, or the side effects of its meds, to blame even normal events on (and blow them into something they are not!). It seems that I cannot enjoy life without MS being suspect, and you cannot be annoyed with your dad w/o him blaming your meds. I wish that we could just live our lives without being judged.

~ Faith

[Erin524]

Originally Posted by FaithS

Probably. My DH does similar things, and gets hypervigilant about stuff.

Sunday, he decided to have a "talk" with me, because he thought that I might be in the initial stages of an MS flare. My flare symptoms are a-typical, and tend to include manic thoughts and behavior.

What?

Because I had trouble sleeping, and was up somewhat during the night, made one more comment than usual during Sunday School, and swayed slightly to the music during the contemporary worship service during church (which I often do, if it's an upbeat song that I enjoy), he thought that those were "changes" from usual, and might indicate the beginning of some mania? (When I'm manic, I don't sleep a lot, have excess energy, and am more "busy", out-going, talkative, etc. Sometimes very excessively.)

By the next day, when there were no more signs or alarming changes, he backed down and acknowledged that there had been no reason for concern. However, I should be "grateful" that he keeps an eye on things, so that, if there HAD been a problem, we could've caught it early.

Sigh!

Not exactly the same thing, Erin. But, I get it. Sometimes, family members want to use MS, or the side effects of its meds, to blame even normal events on (and blow them into something they are not!). It seems that I cannot enjoy life without MS being suspect, and you cannot be annoyed with your dad w/o him blaming your meds. I wish that we could just live our lives without being judged.

~ Faith

I was playing with the Sims3 game that I got last week, and mentioned to my dad that some people like to torture their sims, so I had set up one Sim just to screw around with and see what kinds of things you can do to them.

Then all of a sudden he's making comments that he's read that people with MS are like that, that they have some sort of mental problem that makes them not have any empathy for anyone else.

wtf?

It's a computer game, and for gosh sakes, all the non-MS people are doing it too. Heck, I didnt even kill the Sim that I was torturing. (as if not letting him bathe for 3 days and taking his toilet away is really hurtig the stupid Sim)

The ideas that people get about MS and what we're all like. I really do not like the sweeping generalizations and totally wrong assumptions people make about people with MS. And to have my own dad do it sometimes...argh!!

As for empathy for other people, I was on another forum today, where some teenage moron from a European country posted a ranty "vent" about "older people and impaired"..... She was whining because she lives 500 meters from an old folks home, and there's an older person in that home that leaves their windows open all the time and is constantly coughing. (and really, 500 meters is pretty far to be hearing a coughing noise from) The teenage moron was whining because she was tired of listening to the constant coughing, and actually made the comment "hurry up and die already" about her neighbor. This girl was then surprised when a bunch of people (including me) were offended that she'd be so callous towards someone like that.

That girl is one of the reasons that I really dont like people all that much right now. There's too many people with attitudes like that. I'm sure karma will get her eventually. Everyone gets old.