Geeze Louize!
Are you mad as heck or at peace with this sudden slap in the face?
If there is anything I can do, PM me and I'll call you.
I have been wanting to send you something for your support through my trials.
Is the address still the same?

Thanks Martha,

The Serenity Prayer, I definitely need to focus on that right now.

Thanks for the Hugs Dawn, thanks so much..

Cyndy, your'e so sweet! I hope you are doing better.Thanks so much for your thoughtfulness.

Thanks again everyone and please keep me in your prayers. J (Hubby) too. He will need prayers too. I know this isn't easy for him either.

Hugs to All,
G~

Gromily,

So sorry to hear of you sad time. I hope that your move goes quick and smooth and that you can settlle down and enjoy the arrival of grandchildren. That will be a happy time for you.

Vent your anger anytime as we are all here to listen and support you.

Thinking of you
Hx

This news is not welcome, but, maybe you will have some peace and quiet that will relate to less pain. (???) Maybe?

When it is not me who is being left by a love, and I am outside looking in, it is much easier to see that there may be a plan and that your life may end up better for it. The situation with your son and his new baby coming sounds really exciting and wonderful.

But when it's me who is in pain, I don't "do" break-ups very well - my divorce took me three years to handle! I think I cried for a whole year. And I'm not a crier!

After 13 years with my fiance, I do allow breaks. I mean, we've had two brief ones, including moving away - and he moved back - and we talked and I took him back. We are meant for eachother, but we're not perfect.

We were just talking about how different he is now than when we met - I mean, he used to eat at 8 PM, and now he likes to eat early like me. So many BIG things, and little things, that he wasn't and now is. (Thanks to me, haha.) But seriously, he took a couple of time-outs for a couple of months, to think over whether he was happy changing with me, or, if he wanted to be alone. I didn't bug him during those times. I allowed him to come to the conclusion that both times, he loved me more than anything, and he wasn't being controlled. Some men have this deep-seated fear of control, vulnerability and true intimacy.

I will pray that whatever happens in your life, Grom, that it is a positive thing, and something that hopefully will bring you less pain of TOS. So I'll be praying for you by name, ok?

And Serenity prayer, yes. So hard, though.

Hugs, Tam

Thanks Hx and Tam,


Thanks again everyone for your kind support. It means the world to me!

You dear ones are the only ones who can truly relate to the struggles we Tos'rs go through!! Others may or may not try, but you are the ones who know the real difficulties!!

Blessings and Hugs to all,
G~

Hi G,

Am so sorry to hear your sad news. I think all of us understand the stress that TOS puts on relationships....and then on top of that, you had all the stress of your husband's illness to deal with as well. Maybe somewhere down the line, you guys will be able feel a little more tenderness towards each other when you've had time to reflect on how much the stress of the terrible year you had to endure together affected your relationship?

In the meantime, I am happy to hear that you seem to be at peace with the decision. You know you always have your friends here for support.

Take care.

Thanks Stardust,
G~

Hi Grom...

So sorry to hear the news...
you sure have had a terrible time with illness affecting you both...
I pray that you find peace...

((((((((((((((cyber-HUGS))))))))))))))))

Hello Dear Heart!!

How are YOU!!! I hope you are hanging in there!! So good to see you made it here!!

Thanks so much for your encouragement, Things are better now, there are efforts being made to reconcile, and that is good...

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

(((Hugs to you too!)))

G~

I am hopeful things will be better between the two of you. I am sure that his prostate cancer was terrifying for him, and also that you saw him at his lowest is hard for a man to take. Just remember that you did your best to make sure he got the best care, battling Kaiser and all. That should count for a lot!