hi all

better happier new year for us all,

if its baby steps, then that's fine with me,
we had some friends round for dinner over the holidays, and I managed to hold it together, without people being kind and understanding , although our guess are, a small victory is a victory none the less,

also went to see the movie Avatar in 3D, good movie, and the story line held something for me, if you get a chance go see it, but overload on my senses was intense . but I lived it was kind of advert ion therapy experiment on myself

luv on ya peeps

Good for you! I'm finally starting to appreciate how important it really is to celebrate our seemingly small victories.

I don't know if I could handle Avatar, but I did make it through a kiddie flick on Boxing Day. It helped that I wore ear plugs and stared into the popcorn bag when the images on the screen were too bright or moving too quickly. It was my first trip to the cinema since my injury. I couldn't really follow all of the story, but I don't care - my litttle girl was just so thrilled that we were there together.

Hockey,

Good for you and your little girl. Just remember, little ones mostly just want you presence, not necessarily your presents.

Hugs all around.

well done hockey

its so important for our kids to maintain a sense of normality, as best we can, and in many ways it can be our driving force to improve, we are so blessed to have them in our lives, much of my anger ect is about the effect this had had on them, Avarta is about a guy in a wheel chair, but will say no more, I thankfully am not in that situation

thanks hock

You are dead right!!!

It's my little daughter I feel for most. It's like her childhood ended in a split second. I went from the active, patient, fun grownup all her friends wanted for their parent to a fragile, limited, sometimes frighteningly tempermental Mommy Monster.

As I can't work, her material circumstances have also deteriorated. I know money isn't the most important thing, but try telling your kid that there will be no more dancing or music lessons with her friends.

Like you said, I struggle each day to improve so I can be a better parent to her. For all the effort, I usually come up short. I just hope I'm not doing too much damage and that when she's an adult she might at least understand how hard I tried.

Cheers

our best is good enough

we have eight kids between us 5 grand kids , so take it from me your best IS good enough

cant say I am grouchy with our youngest, just dull the shine has gone, and of cause the money thing , I was a top flight fire engineer . so the drop has been huge , its the missing time we cant ever get back that ticks by that bugs me .

but hock I truly feel I must make the best of things PM me if you wish to vent , I have decided to appear as my Avatar again those who know me, know my face and my friends know my art

so that's

Lets hope this will be a good year - progress can be made no matter how small - I plan to "get my house sorted" - by that know where to find everything - I am sick and tired of wasting my time looking for things - shifting house does not help this either!

I am so glad I emptied out my work office prior to Christmas as it was approx 2 years since I had stopped working and that had been hanging over me since then - when I did it my old employer asked me if I wanted a job - yes I do - but I admit I can't do it! My old office was like a shrine - nothing had been moved - my little bits and pieces still around - my toothbrush and paste still in my bottom drawer - and my file of jokes!!!!

I guess clearing the office out was progress for me!

I am only going to think and acknowledge positive thoughts and choose to be with positive people- yes that is the way for me this year! Thank you Vini and Hockey for for steering me in this direction!

Lynlee

I recently celebrated my first year of post-concussive syndrome. Things are going relatively well. I know what triggers headaches and try my best to avoid those things. I refuse to stop doing the things that I love to do. Anyway, on New Years day, my 74 year old dad was walking up the stairs in his basement and the stair gave way and he fell backwards onto the cement. He has a skull fracture, frontal lobe contusions and a subdural hematoma. He was real combative, which I realize is from the head injury. It is just hard to watch when it is a parent. They had to restrain him for about 1-1/2 days. Last night when he wasn't restrained, he managed to pull out his feeding tube! Since I don't remember my head injury and what happened right after, I don't know if this kind of stuff is normal? Since it took me a year and mine was not nearly as bad as his, I am wondering how long his recovery will be! I just have all these questions and fears for both him and my 73 year old mom. Their house is not "friendly" in the sense that the bedroom and only bathroom are located up stairs and the laundry is in the basement. My dad does not want to move out the house, but we need to have both of them in a safe place. The part after the hospital will be the hardest.

Oh Shreds, I'm so sorry this has happened. While I wish you weren't a PCS patient, your experience with head injury will serve your family well in the days to come.

As for the aggressive behavior, that isn't uncommon when there has been significant damage to the frontal lobe.

Take care

I am so sorry to hear what happenned to your Dad. Sometimes people seem to recover well from the most horrible head injuries. In the meantime it will be alot of stress that you don't need. Don't be too proud to ask for help!

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Your parents home could be made "friendly" - a stair lift for the stairs up to the bedroom and bathroom and what about the washing machine and drier being shifted to the kitchen?

Please keep us posted. Hugs

Lynlee