Soccer, you said, "Why not just keep playing?" To quote one of my family's favorite movies, "Your Killing Me Smalls!. You're a smart girl, you've done the research, you know the answer to this question. mhr4 makes a good point...continuing to put yourself in danger is insulting for those who have done everything to protect themselves yet still endure reocurring concussion and lifelong struggles.

mhr4 is also right about wishing we could re-wind and undo the injury. I was five feet away from my daughter when she got hurt. I spent a lot of time during the early months of her recovery feeling guilty, "what if" this, "what if" that. I'm saying this so you realize that a brain injury affects everyone in your family. Our family has more anxiety, less money, more tears, more arguments, etc. You realy need to think about why you are putting yourself AND YOUR FAMILY at risk of another injury.

My daughter made JV basketball as a freshman (very big deal in our school). She was close to setting records in both pole vaulting and the 100, also as a freshman. She trained 12 months a year for one sport or another for four years. She was well on her way to an athletic scholarship of one type or another. She also had a straight A average. Right now we consider it a good day if she can spend 13 minutes on the eliptical machine or if she gets a C in school. She has been miserable about all of this at times, it has been hard to see her suffer. But there are new options already on her horizon. As I've mentioned, she's made new, stronger friendships. Last week she got a recruitment packet from a college with a crew team. She was like, "Crew? That won't hurt my head, right? I could TOTALLY ROCK crew!"

We had a conversation with one of her coaches the other day who told us she wished she had quit playing basketball in high school. She played through the pain of a back injury. Now she is in constant pain and struggles to raise her young kids. All for the glory of one state championship. I'm going to tell you the honest truth about this: When you are raising a family or have a successful career or whatever you choose, nobody cares how well your soccer team did in high school. Adults who continue to talk about their performance in high school sports are considered boring and somewhat pathetic.

I promise you there are great and wonderful things waiting for you if you will just allow yourself the health and patience to experience them.

Hi, soccer14,

Your doctor could label you as a "noncompliant" patient and just write you off for now.

I know they do that too.

They figure when it gets bad enough, you'll be back. Guarantee it!!!!

He asked you to write.

Do what he asked, OK?

Write something. Write half... all...

JUST DON'T WRITE LIES, OK?

That will be in your medical record forever!!!!!!!!!

That will follow you for the rest of your life. Promise!!!!!!

Are you so bad off that you don't think sitting out for a while now, (you're young) you may heal and be able to play next year or in college? Keep it up and you'll not be able to go to college.

Are you thinking of tomorrow, at all?

Are you?

What about boys, soccer14? they can be fun... very time consuming.

There's probably young boys watching you and just can't get close enough to talk to you because you're always doing the sporty thing. Are you going to miss out on them? Could be more fun than ball, in a good way too. You may not be old enough to date yet but you can take time to do other predating things.

I'm a court reporter and I get to hear 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, and even 80 year olds tell about them sports injuries they got in school plaguing them all their livelong days.

Think about it, soccer14.

Do you think it can get worse?

So doing nothing is not an option.

hahaha i did have a boyfried...and yes we not dating now because he said i didnt spend enough time with him. of course basketball and soccer a lot. oh well there really isnt anyone that i would want to spend enough time with.

and no not really i dont think im thinking about tomorrow. i tend to be compulsive with some things not really thinking about the consequences. gotten some speeding tickets my parents werent too happy about (i like to drive fast and race other people) i guess there are times i think about tomorrow. ive never done drugs or smoked and i dont dare drink anymore with my head. i never did a lot just a few times with my sister at her college but i dont do that anymore knowing i dont have anything to prove and that i would rather not make things worse. which is really ironic since i continue to play and attempt to hide my symptoms.

i dont know why im rambling on about this i dont have anything very important to say.

everything you say is important to me.

thanks for the hahaha!!! need to see some humor outta ya...

boys come in all varities. No 2 R alike.

Oh. That's another forum.

I'm proud of you for knowing the best way to choose in the drinking and smoking habits. They're not good habits to have. costly too. Good decision making skills.

hey (broken wings), Is your font sizing function broken too? LOL

Or are you going to hand out magnifying glasses with the small fonts?

You made some good points.

soccer, It sounds like you may be an adrenaline junkie. There are various psychological/psychiatric issues that manifest with excessive risk taking and compulsive behaviors. I wonder if you have any of these predilections?

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what are some of the issues that could happen?

well we had a game last night and i didnt play. i dont want to sound like im pouting or anything im just kind of confused about it. i was playing about 8 minutes a ga,e not very long ago and then all of a sudden it was down to 4 then 2 and then last night none. i dont know if i should ask the coach why or not i dont want to be one of those people oh why didnt i play im so much better than everyone, which im definitely not. but you know what i mean.

did she find out about my head or something i didnt think i had told anyone?

Your coach should notice the difference in your performance and should use caution. They're liable for your health status to a degree, you know, a liability degree that is. Your challenges may be more noticeable than you realize. Your eyes should tell them things. You can't avoid looking at the ball and your coach and friends and family and doctor. If they notice it, it should be addressed by adults. expect that. they're doing their job.

It's a very complicated world we live in. My pet peeve is "Get Healthy. You can't afford to be sick." That's a hard one.

thats what i didnt get though i was actually doing pretty well i made it through all the practices and on the day before the game i had a really good practice. at least i thought i did i could actually process what was going on fast enough to read plays and stuff. i dont know its a weird thing i guess. i was thinking abut asking her tomorrow do you think i should just you know just be like i was just wondering why i didnt play and if it was related to my head at all? does that sound i dont know fair you know? or what would be a good way to ask