Nick,

There are $100 a week apartments in Las Vegas. Keep looking. Moving will be stressful. You only want to do it once.

My best to you.

I wasn't able to find anything for $100 a week. If you have any links or information about that, that would be great.

Just about all the weekly apartments here come fully furnished...so moving shouldn't be too much of a stress. Just need to gather my clothes, personal hygiene and medicine...I can just leave the rest of my stuff here at my mother's since my ex-fiance will continue to stay here anyways.

I find it odd that your ex-fiance is still there after the breakup. She and her kid should be gone from your life.

Check http://lasvegas.craigslist.org/roo/

Some are listed as $400 per month, others as $100 or $125 per week.

1. She paid part of the rent with her government assistance money for this month. So it wouldn't be fair to just throw her out before the month is up.

2. We have a custody case open on our mutual son that hasn't been resolved yet. She is agreeing to give me joint physical custody but she hasn't brought the written response to court yet.

3. I've got a big heart...she has nowhere to go. I don't want her son to be on the street.

4. We might work things out, so far it doesn't look good.

I'm seriously considering renting a room from someone...at least until she can find a place to go. Once she leaves my mother's, I can move back in and that will save me a lot of much needed cash.

I saw some pretty good deals on Craigslist.

Update:

So..I finally couldn't take it anymore and I kicked the ex-fiance out. This has been a huge...HUGE...stress on me and I'm mentally drained. She took my son with her...nothing I can do about that since the custody thing hasn't been settled in court. As she was leaving, she told me that's she's not going to give up joint custody anymore and she's gonna try to fight for full custody...using my disability against me.

I'm glad she's gone...but all the stress this caused tonight has caused me to take a step back in my recovery....and I miss my son already.

Your mom's place sounds to stressful. You need peace and quiet, with or without your ex.

What is taking so long about the joint custody issue? You need this settled. One less cause of stress.

It does not sound like she can make it without some help from you. Do you have any disability funds coming in?

Will the victims funds run out and leave you penniless?

You really need to sit down with someone to plan out the next year, for both you alone and your son.

You need to stand on your own feet, regardless of whether your mom has room for you.

The courts usually look at how willing the parent is to look after the child as well as the parent's disposition and how much he/she cares for the child. Her using your temporary impairment against you is actually a strike against her, not you.

If you need help with this case, let me know. I've been through my own in the past year and it only took 10 months to sort out, whereas I know others have gone through more than 2 years, sometimes 4 to get custody finalized.

Hello nwsmith
 

It is good that you posted. This site is to help people and to listen. You really are having a hard time with 9 people in the home. Any injury would be difficult to get over in a house like that with constant noise and arguement. There are patient advocacy groups in your local hospital. Maybe they could direct you to some place where you could have a spot on your own. I think the only way you are going to know peace is if you leave that home. There are alternatives other than your aunt and Uncle with whom you only see twice a year. However under the circumstances, if there were any hope of that I would write to them and tell them of your circumstances. I do know that TBI can be really difficult to deal with, and it takes some time to heal.
Your EX fiancee is an X as you said. You don't have to keep ties with her as much as you do with your son. You can still do that and have a place of your own. Look into getting some help, so that you can have some quiet to be able to heal. I hope alot of others come by to talk to you too. It is not a bother. I am just sorry you are going through TBI and have to live in an upsetting environment.. Maybe others will have some better advice than I do too. I will be thinking about you and praying for you that you can find a solution. ginnie

My ex-fiance just called me crying hysterically. I couldn't help but laugh.

She went to the court house to respond to the subpoena she was served with at the end of December. She had 20 days to respond to it, it's been about 24 days since she was served. So, now she's in default. They told her she had to pay $212 or I could be given full custody of my son. She can't pay it.

Basically, the ball is in my court now...they are going to give me whatever I ask for - she has no say in it anymore. I could be an (insert profanity here) and say I want full custody, but I'm not going to. I'm gonna be the bigger person and request what I set out for: Equal Rights. I want what is best for my son, not what's best for me or her. He needs both his parents in his life whether we are together or not.

I love my son more than anything in the world. If it wasn't for him, I would have gave up this fight to PCS months ago.

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Mark,

I'm going to see how the next week plays out at my mom's before I make the decision to move out. I have to admit, it's a lot quieter without her and both the kids here.

My younger siblings go to school during the week, so the mornings up until about 2pm are pretty quiet. My sister that has the baby is here, but she keeps to herself and doesn't usually bother me. My mom works full time during the week and goes straight to school after work. Only time it's REALLY chaotic here is on the weekend.

Your right, she can't make it without me. She's going to be bouncing around from place to place, friend to friend in downtown LV. She has no income as far as cash (only food stamps) and will be relying on her mom (who is transient and doesn't have a job) to find her and her son a place to sleep at night. No back bone whatsoever.

No disability income, just Unemployment while I await the approval from SSI.

I have about $25,000 left on the Victims of Crime fund. Since I'm done with the rather expensive things (CT/MRI's, etc.) that should last me awhile.

I'm working on my plan. Just have to get this custody thing out of the way, get approved for SSI and make some improvements in my recovery before I can move forward. I've never been the type to just sit around while everything crumbles around me.

As always, you've provided a lot of good help and incite on everything I've ever posted about. ...Thank you :)...
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bh_pcs,

My mother was just telling me exactly what you said last night. Also, I've never hurt my son, nor have any domestic violence cases against me. The police have never been called on me for anything. She has nothing on me.

Things are actually moving pretty fast. ERDF (Equal Rights for Divorced Fathers) told me to come in and sign some paperwork...and they'll get me a court date within 3-5 days. They are great...they made everything so easy for me. I'll be sure to PM you if I need any help...Thanks!... :)
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ginnie,

If I would have never found this forum, I probably would have lost my mind by now.

I've gotten more support and information from people here than I have anyone in my life right now. Doctors, family members, friends...none of them understand what I'm going through or have the right words to say like the people here. Thanks!!!!!
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