It is very common for the testers to diagnose psychological causes when the subject tests well for intelligence. Instead of looking at the disparity of the scores, they take the best scores and consider them representative of your function. They look at the low scores as aberrations or faking (malingering)

It is helpful to understand each test so that the misinterpretations can be challenged.


Todayistommorrow, You and your wife need to get together in understanding your condition. You need her on your team rather that in conflict.

The TBI Survival Guide at www.tbiguide.comcan be very helpful as well as the YouTube video series "You Look Great" by John Byler.

We tried to get a thread going for spouses of PCS sufferers. They have a special need to understand concussion.

Julie,
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. My testing showed that I too was clinically depressed and anxious. They felt my issues were because of the amount of pain I'm in. Well pain can lead to depression so I'm not quite sure what to make of it. So I personally disregarded there statements. I did start therapy and the person I'm seeing has alot of TBI experience under his belt and I feel he is wonderful

My neurologist was going to have me return to work this tuesday but my therapst said, NO WAY. I still have alot of cognitive issues and flourescent lights kill me. They feel like beams of heat that bore into my eye sockets and the pain spreads from there.

My Neurologist also told me that starting therapy things might get worse and then start to improve. I can see this because after my session I cry alot. I think I need to cry more lol

The neurosurgeon I saw this week told me I was a very lucky girl. I guess I "poo-poo" my injury because I couldn't deal with the seriousness of it all. I brushed it off. It hit me when the surgeon told me I was lucky. I realize a 50 lb door impacting the front of my head could have been so much worse. I try to put it all into perspective (as much as I can anyway).

I know you live in the same state as I do. I wanted to tell you the Anxiety Clinic at the Institute of Living are a great bunch of people. They are helpful.

I actually felt a little better getting that big piece off of my chest...I actually felt "ashamed" going to an attorney (who was frothing at the mouth lol)..not only does it fall under the ADA, when I was told to not seek out HR anymore, that was retaliation as well.

A large part of me is SO grateful that I never EVER have to return their again...I do have to face "them" at a hearing towards the end of the month...I haven't yet figured out how I'm going to manage that, I'm going to have to dig WAY deep for that strength!!!

I would never EVER dream of treating anyone how I was treated. I have to put faith in this system...and pray that none of them ever find themselves in my position...I wouldn't wish that on anyone...

As difficult as it has been, advocating for myself makes me feel like I'm also advocating for others in my position as well. It feels right and it feels good.

It helps with this kind of confrontation to remove yourself from the equation. Respond at the hearing as if you are a third party and you are just speaking for JulieRN. Take out the personal feelings. This will be best if you do a bit of rehearsing. Rehearse your tone of voice and objective comments.

Get your emotions out of the equation. Maybe you can sit down and write a list of all of the behaviors and comments that were inappropriate. By writing them down, it can help to depersonalize the issue.

Think of it as 'This is what was said and done' versus ' So'n'so did this to ME.'

AS you said, Consider this advocating for all people in your position. You are confronting the 'system', not a person. The system allowed this to happen. The system needs to be fixed so the person can not misbehave.

This is sometimes called "administrative systems." An organization with poor administrative system allows bad behaviors. Strong administrative systems are designed to prevent bad behaviors. A strong admin system would provide an avenue for you to comment/communicate to HR and others who cab come to your aid. Strong admin systems are designed to strengthen the working organization and to prevent legal liabilities as in a case like this.

So, rehearse and get your ducks in a row and the hearing should go much smoother.

btw, My wife worked in a poorly run organization like yours and got laid off due to a supervisor with a poor personality and admin skills. Odd how businesses tend to keep the trouble makers.

My best to you.