Hello all,

I have just stumbled upon this site and am glad to have done so. I have read various forums and already gained a lot of valuable insight on brain injuries that I did not know. Anyway, here's my story.

I am a 20-year-old college student-athlete, I play ice hockey. In addition to ice hockey, I am a gym rat, exercise guru, etc. I love competition and love working on myself both physically and mentally to be the best I can be.

Through my early years BEFORE my college playing career began I suffered 2 or 3 concussions, all spread out over years, no injuries close to each other. In my freshman season, about midway through, I suffered a rather severe concussion after a hit which impacted my chin directly. After a little over one month recovery time, I was back on the ice and back to normal.

My sophomore season I enjoyed a healthy season right up until the final week of practice for the season just before the national tournament began where I collided with a teammate and suffered another concussion. That ended my season. I got over that concussion without much of a problem as well.

My offseason this time I took a bit more seriously and coming into this season I was in the best shape of my life and raring to go for my junior season. I am a hard-hitting forward and for any of you who know hockey I am a bonafide "grinder." I LOVE the corners, LOVE making the big hit to sway the momentum in the game and play a very physical, high energy style.

After a successful training camp I was back in the gym the week before the season officially began this past september (2012) when I smacked the back of my head on a barbell that was racked on a bench press. I finished my workout and even finished that week exercising regularly before I began to notice the all-too-familiar concussion symptoms.

Anyway, sorry for making this so long but fast-forwarding four months down the road, it is now January and I have redshirted for this season. I took my recovery seriously in the beginning while being aided by our team trainers and university doctors. I was granted a 2-week leave of absence from school in November for neurological rest where I went home and laid around in a dark room. It did help me. However, I was over zealous and attempted to make a return to hockey and the exertion, body checking, physicality was too much to handle so I again pulled myself out of competition.

After this, I started getting really depressed. I had lost so much muscle mass and definition because of my absence from the gym, was aware that I would probably have to scratch this season, and was having a tough time concentrating in school. On top of that, my university is a co-op school where you basically are in classes for six months and then you intern and gain job experience from real employers in your field of study for the succeeding six months. The co-op process is stressful and competitive and I have been dealing with the stress of interviews and classes at the same time. I've had good days and positive progress and told myself I'm fine and have gone out and partied and drank and smoked marijuana on many occasions.

Before you bash me for this, I am aware of the detrimental effects this behavior causes me and since have completely stopped any intake of alcohol or caffeine. At the turn of the new year I have been on top of my recovery like a mad man, sleeping or laying around in dark rooms given every opportunity, avoiding loud music, bright lights, driving, exertion. However, I cannot avoid going to class and the workload that results or attending team functions. Although I am no longer participating in hockey I still attend games and practice as a member of the team.

Anyway, I'm having serious doubts about getting my life back. I'm well aware my hockey career may be over. I'm pretty depressed because of it. What depresses me more is that I can't get in the gym, look and feel like crap, can't push myself in school or for interviews for jobs the way I want to and I'm concerned at how life-altering this has already been for me and how much it can continue to mess up my promising future.

I'm really sorry for making this post so long I just really needed a place to vent. My friends and family support me, however, they have no idea what I am going through and it gets old for them after four months asking me how they can help. I am young and feel like I am meant for a great future but I have lost much of my former self. The hard-working, motivated, smiling, happy self that was me four months ago has been replaced by a depressed, desperate, hopeless kid with a serious brain injury. I know it is depressing for many of those around me like my friends and younger brothers who once counted on me for inspiration and advice. Thanks for reading and bearing with me through this extremely long post, I look forward to hearing some responses.

Thanks so much, wishing this new community all the best.

-Pat

Pat

I totally understand what you are going through. Prior to my accident, I was working full time and then going to grad school full time in the evenings. I was also very invovled with coaching high school kids. I was constantly on the go. At 24, I was coming home from work at a merge point completely stopped. Someone hit me doing 45mph and then I hit the car in front of me from the impact. I had two previous concussions in the two years prior from my job. (I worked with students with special needs who could be very aggressive at times).

After my accident, I spent 18 months doing nothing but therapies. I know the depression you feel, as I still deal with it. Last fall, I started back to class part time. However I am still unable to return to work.

I can tell you from what you've told me, you have not given your brain enough time to truly rest. Can you take a medical leave from college? If you want to move forward, you really need to allow your brain to stop and rest. This is the only way you can heal. I took an 18 month medical leave from graduate school and when I started back, it was still only for 2 classes with a great deal of accomodations from my schools disability program.

As for the depression you feel, yes your situation sucks. I can say that, because I've been there However, if you allow yourself to heal, you can slowly work back to the things you love. Perhaps not hockey, due to the risk of reinjury. But could you coach hockey? Help out the team in another type of way? etc

I would see if there is a sports rehab doctor in your area. They might be able to help you find a cognitive therapist. I found one who has experience with brain injury and she's been really helpful in helping me to accept that this is where my life is right now, but that it won't be this way forever. That has allowed me to permit myself to take it slow, so I can heal and move forward.

This was very hard for me at first as I am very competitive as well, and did not like that I couldn't be my old, fast paced, hard working self. I know how much this hurts and how depressing it is.

But if you allow yourself to focus solely on healing, you can start to feel better physically and emotionally.

My best to you ((hugs))

I completely agree with the sense of a 'loss of self'. I think deep down we are still ourselves, but not who we defined ourselves as before the injury. Lots of grieving to do.

It does feel good to know people understand your suffering. Hang in there!

Pat,

Welcome to NeuroTalk. We have heard stories like yours many times. You have already started to allow the future to be less than you intended. This is good because it lowers anxiety factors. You likely have suffered far more than 3 or 4 total concussion. Most of your concussions you just shook off and got back in the next line change. This can be why you are struggling so much this time. My doctor believes we use up our ability to recovery to the max. I know I have no more ability to recover.

I suggest you start by reading my thread, "Vitamin and Supplement...." It lists some good online resources for you and your family/friends to watch and read. Plus, you should get going on brain nutrition to maximize your brain's ability to heal and tolerate stress.

My brain is too fried tonight to read you whole post so I can comment more later. Others will to. Lots of good people here.

As Smilin said, You need quiet rest. No observing games or practices. Minimal cognitive load.

We are here for you.

My best to you.

Thanks so much to you guys who have already responded. It feels good to know there are those who have been in the same situation as me and I am looking forward to gaining everything I can from this community.

Mark, I plan on following your vitamin and nutrition plan and will definitely be letting you know if I have questions or concerns.

Also, I am visiting a concussion rehabilitation center nearby my school this week and will post on what advice/help I can gather there.

Thanks again,
Pat

All of the rest I have been getting is helping, I feel much better than I did at the time of my original post. I saw a neurologist at a concussion rehab center who has prescribed me gabapentin, also commonly referred to as neurontin to help with my recovery. I am also taking fish oil, magnesium, and multivitamins as this doctor approved of those to take with my medication.

Overall, I am a lot happier as I have noticed improvement in my status. The doctor I saw also cleared me to do light workouts to get my body back into better shape again, so long as I do not have any problems with headaches. He has a theory that some of the lingering headaches and problems that are remaining is a result of my brain getting used to this new down-trodden, out of shape version of myself and in order to combat that, he thinks I should start breaking a sweat again. Anyway, just wanted to share some of this information. Hope everyone else is getting some good luck too.

That is great, that you are seeing improvements.

Just a reminder though, to space your gabapentin around the
magnesium and the multivitamins. Both can complex the gabapentin and reduce its absorption.

The multivit probably has an insoluble form of magnesium called magnesium stearate in it.

The pamphlet from the pharmacy and/or a sticker on your bottle should have provided this information.