I whole heartedly agree with Mark. You must keep your children in mind. However much you love him it would be a double injury to hurt them trying to help him. I am always surprised by how many men define themselves by the concept of being man enough. I am sure if he were asked what it meant to be a man words like provider, protector, leader, ... would follow. It seems a sad fact that many men no longer understand we define ourselves by our actions, ethics and morals. Not societies concept of advertisement. I feel it has led to social identity crisis.