Mark,
your posts are always great and appreciated. you can tell i'm at it's end. my fiancé won't move from her mother but If I don't get better, I might have to move. I've never spent an extended time in a quite environment ad might need to try it.

I really wish the whole brain regenerated but I guess for now we'll have to deal with the reality that it's just a small part of the brain. I don't know how much slack neuroplasticity takes up, but my problems are more sensory than memory, learning, etc.

interesting article though.

The last two days I've wanted to remove the left side of my brain. Even with topamax I'm having break through headaches. I've been in therapy for months and feel like it will never end. I had to walk and do verbal tasks...it took me down. I want to be healed and not feel stupid.

markneil,

If your problems are more sensory, you likely are over taxing your sensory processing systems. There is no way to resolve this that to escape the sensory over-stimulation.

What help has your fiance' been ?

If you two intend to get married, you need to consider if you are marrying her or marrying her and her mother. It will likely be difficult to get the consistent support of a spouse if she has such a focus on her mother. Maybe all three of you should find and attend a brain injury support group. This will give you some insights into how they both respond to your needs when they see the needs others have.

It is a tough situation but doing the investigative work to determine how they will respond to your needs in the long term is very important.

My best to you.

thanks Mark. She has been very supportive, and her mother is no spring chicken. Getting them to go to a meeting is a great idea. The mother offers only verbal support when I see her, but my girlfriend is very supportive. fiancé, that is. it is perhaps not an appropriate word in this case, as the head injury has destroyed my sexual desire, which I guess is needed to get married. I am so confused by this situation, I dot know what o think sometimes. I have stripped of things I never thought I would lose.