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Thank you friends,

This community gets what each other experiences in one way or another. I'm sorry that my posts aren't more uplifting and positive when I'm here. I'm still trying to understand what's happening/happened to me. It takes me days to read responses and to respond. Thank you for responding. I might forget to say that by the end.

The changes are still coming about or I am still becoming aware slowly. I don't feel like me yet.

Most people are nice and even strangers caring. 99% of my family great too although its very hard on them. This didnt just happen to me. The people that love me suffer too.

Body language was mentioned and I've noticed I can tsee it. I want to say- i have a brain injury, not the Black Plague. I've been going to the same eye dr for 12 ish yrs. the nurse had to put numbing drops in and the lights were up. Asked her to dim and she was talking down to me even after explaining light sensitivity. They all know there whats wrong. She wouldn't turn down the lights. Before that asked if I knew why I was even there.

I wonder if my perception is off too. I ask those that go with me questions like that. They don't always see things the way I do. Maybe I am off. Maybe they just can't relate. I don't know for sure.

I'm not good standing up for myself yet. This was so natural before and not worrisome. Just a smile and ask kindly yet confidently. Now I worry I might get emotional, then brain hits wall, and dazed confused sets in and they send me to psych ward.

I was without a family member this day. She was in waiting room. Never again till I can't find my voice in my head.

Nearly 11 months and I feel like I'm platued. If this is where I'm at well I'm still worried but would love to learn to accept me. I do see a neuropsychologist weekly. She's a lifeline for me.

As all of you are too. I know only 1 other person that had an injury like me but don't get to talk to tahat person much.

Peace, Jace

You are totally not alone in this. I've had a number of people treat me as though I'm not up to par anymore. I've had changes, yes. I might take a little longer to think, speak, and make decisions, but it's not because I'm not intelligent. I'm just more thoughtful and careful of what I say now-I want it to come out correctly. And if anyone pushes your buttons...I say throat punch them and blame it on a medical condition!!!! :D

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Originally Posted by Living_Dazed (Post 1019175)

Hello all you still smart important people,

I've learned that I have a new superpower since my injury. I have the ability to detect a rottenness in people. It's unfortunate that a handful of people I've come in contact with have displayed behavior that they didn't prior to my brain injury.

It's as if they think I can't understand or don't see it. My intelligence is still there, everything just works differently, and slowly now. I know when someone is being cruel or bad.

I've been a child advocate for years. You can't just be kind when others witness you with kids. It has to be all the time and come from respect of others.

I'm seeing a side of people I didn't before maybe because it was obvious I had all my faculties working correctly. I've met amazingly kind people and wolves in sheeps clothing.

I've always had the attitude of be kind to others, they'll be kind to you. That doesn't always work but mostly in my life. Now I feel even though I'm kind, some people talk down to me or are outright cruel. I lost my voice, my thoughts don't come fast anymore and my lack of confidence is obvious. I'm afraid if I do speak up and it all comes out wrong they'll think I've lost my mind and admit me.

I'm rarely alone. 100 % of the time someone has driven me. 98% of the time someone is with me. It's the other 2% of the time that this happens.

Any thoughts on this? Am I lacking perspective?

If no one told you lately, you are smart, and you are important.. I couldn't get through this without all of you here.

LOL........."throat punch them........." don't we all have that feeling sometimes..

:eek: :D

Best Wishes............ :grouphug: