[SnowWhite99]

Hello! I'm new here.... as a brief intro, my husband suffered a severe tbi last October. A pedestrian stepped into the road and into the path of my husband who was on a motorcycle. He had on a helmet,.but the accident was so bad that he suffered two hematomas (left temporal and frontal)that had to be evacuated. He was essentially lifeless at the scene. HE also suffered an ocular fracture, broken ribs and a collapsed lung. He was in a coma, and presumed in a vegetative state for 15 days. His doctors were trying to convince me to send him to hospice when he miraculously started to come out of it.

Since then, he's made a miraculous recovery. In some ways, he's still himself. Albeit a sleepy, fatigued version. I don't see many personality changes, really. Nothing too big anyway. The biggest thing we deal with, aside from fatigue, is that I'm finding he doesn't tolerate stress well. It's odd. He can handle being out a theme park with our kids for a few hours, for example, probably because that's a familiar routine from before the accident. He can't stay as long as he used to, but he can go. But something like it raining when he wasn't expecting it to, can completely throw him off. Any change in the routine or if things don't go as planned, he can't handle it.. It's like his brain shuts down or off.

He's having trouble walking now too. He will stumble a lit if he's tired or anxious. That's actually a new thing. He says sometimes his hands don't work.

Sometimes when he wakes up, he's disoriented. He's incapable of springing out of bed, and heading out for the day. Can't do it. Sometimes he'll wake up in the middle of the night and he says he's incapable of figuring out if it's day or night. Or doesn't know who he is. I sort of thought he was exaggerating. Tonight, however, he scared me to death. For any of you coma survivors out there, you know coming out of a coma is nothing like the movies...and Channing Tatum is never at your bedside telling you that he's your husband. It's a slow process, marked with confusion and incoherent talk. I look back on these days as the coma lightened, fondly... it meant he was coming back. And even though sometimes it felt like I fell through the looking glass and was talking to the Cheshire cat, I was just so grateful to have him back that anything he said, nonsensical or not, was endearing.

Tonight, he went to sleep and woke up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. He sat down at the edge of the bed and I asked him if he was OK. He told me he was just waiting for the kids to come upstairs...I pointed out the time, stating the kids were in bed already. He told me he knew that and wasn't being the "brain injured guy"and then started rambling on incoherently. Half of it didn't even sound like English. He started talking about our cat like she was a person. And seemed very irritated with me that I didn't understand what he was saying. I suggested we go to the hospital, but he was very unreceptive to that suggestion and just kept getting more annoyed. I haven't noticed this level of confusion in him for months. We are going on 10 months post accident.He hasn't been this out of it since before Christmas. I know it's no use asking if this is "normal "...with brain injury, there seems to be no standard or yard stick you can measure by... what is normal for one, is not for another. For the level of injuries he sustained, it's a miracle he's alive, let alone recovering and highly resembles who he was before. Everything they told me was wrong. They said hed never come back...they were wrong. They said even if he did, the person I loved would be gone...they were wrong. I don't know.... maybe I'm sensitive. Maybe I'm just scared that this horrible accident could still take him from me....