[scarletBegonias]

trying to keep this short...

my partner and i have been together a month shy of 2 years. he's the tbi sufferer; result of a bad car crash about 4 years ago.

he's still currently dealing with legalities and medical nonsense from the crash, still fighting for SSI and an end to the car crash case. No, it's STILL not over.. that fact alone is a huge reason for his issues.

he's dealing with doctors he won't talk to...been through about 4 different psych docs already. they can't assess him because he won't talk about his daily difficulties bc he's got the lowest self esteem i've seen a person possess (all due to his head injury and the consequences of that). he's now threatening suicide and physical harm to others much more frequently than ever before. none of this is ever talked about because he claims that he can only speak to them about the accident and nothing else.

currently living with his mother is posing a HUGE problem medically. she has a whole dumpster load of her own issues and they very frequently are taken out on her son. she is a vile woman, with no rationale and a complete lack of people skills. she hounds him daily about a myriad of things, from chores to showering to laundry to brushing his teeth, taking meds, taking specific meds at "the appropriate time", how he didn't do something right that she asked of him (knowing that he needs in depth instruction)...etc. etc. etc. she does this with the nastiest tone out of the blue at any given moment in time. i've watched and heard her do it right in front of me.

he is having WEEKLY meltdowns now - disrupting me at work with long texts about how he wishes his mother was dead. last week i drove back and forth to his house 3-4 times to pick him up/drop him off because of their fighting. when he's with me, he's FINE! cooperative, bright, very helpful and deeply loving. he tries very hard and i always try to praise him when he's doing something good or right. we're even working on getting him back behind the wheel soon and he was looking optimistic. now....everything is changed. again.

i don't know what else to do. she is not at all helping his legal case, won't let me make any suggestions and verbally abuses her disabled son constantly. i am at my wits end.... who can i go to for help?!?!?!? is there no one that can help us???? i feel like the TWO of them together are going to ruin his life/case if they haven't done enough damage already. i care entirely way too much for him to give up. he deserves a decent life...and i would like him to have that with me.

i am going to see my own therapist tonight - she's not really supportive of our relationship because of how much i have to deal with, otherwise i'd ask her for help. there's got to be something we/i can do.....