Hi all,

I am planning on inviting a guy to dinner that I once went steady with at 14 and haven't seen since. My clothes make me look all wrong and I'm not up on how to how to dress with the size I am now. Most of my weight is in my gut, no butt, skinny legs. I want to buy an outfit to wear with all that in mind that will be casual. I've heard a vest is good for the bigger woman. But with my excessive big gut I'm wondering if that still works. Also, what type of clothes design should I get to take away the emphasis on my big gut. Like perhaps stripes or circles or what? I'd like to go shopping this weekend if I can.

I'm a nervous wreck too because I really like this guy and even though I'm scared of rejection, it would be nice to kind of feel him out to see how he feels. We've been talking off and on since last Spring. I'm thinking we both are giving one another mixed signals but I could be wrong. He may or may not be interested and I'm kind of scared to find out. My husband whom I've been separated from for almost a year use to really put me down so my self esteem is low. HELP me my friends!

befuddled2