Yes, an immigration lawyer.

And yes, very hard to discern what is what online sometimes. Anyway, I'm really pretty sure about the extended family/adult kids thing. Minor kids only. It's very specific on the K-1 visa page, as well.

Good luck. I hope you find someone good. You should be ok. I've not known anyone to be denied via marriage, even if it does take time. Mostly they look for fraud in these cases... and when it's for real, it's pretty obvious. So it should all work out for you. Hang in there. I believe a lot of it is just dogged determination, and you seem to have that.

And if the whole world goes south, I will retreat to my island and you can move to Jamaica, and we can take the mail boat to visit each other, lol.

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Where do you want to move to? what Islands? Of course we could visit. I am not sure where I will live, but it will be with Joseph. My SSI isn't that much. Every dime I give to rent anyway. If there is a will, there is a way. You are very right about me too, one stubborn, determined lady.
Take care waves, see you on one of the Islands.....Actually Anna Maria is good, just getting way to expensive. xxxginnie

Ginnie,

I was joking, what with the whole mailboat thing. I very much doubt I will move back there. There are no jobs for me there. The main reason anyway would be it is close to Florida, since I am not allowed to live in the US.

Can't live in US, by choice, or because you love your home country?. I guess I just try to figure out how the world works and travels. It just seems so complicated these days. I am glad for the PC as it does bring the world closer together in good ways. have a good day waves. I am with my foot propped up and working on a beaded frog. xginnie

how is your arm ginnie?
bizi

After about 10 grand in tests, they found out what was wrong. Just like an athlete blows out a leg, hip, back or arm. In my case it hurt the entire ulner nerve in my arm. I am undergoing intensive therapy that medicare will not cover. It seems strange to find out what is wrong, then not help me to fix it. They are willing to pay for shots, all of them and all the narcotics, but not to actually do something about it, so the problem ends. Just the in and out of the doctors offices is allowed.
Type of therapy called neuro muscular therapy. Hurts like hell and you cry the whole time. However, it seems to be getting better.
The day before I had an accident however. My rt arm as you know doesn't work, so I was trying to cut branches out of the lines with my left hand. The phone company was coming to examine my lines as my phone has been terrible with ingoing and outgoing calls. They told me if there were any branches on the lines I would have to pay to have them cut out. Well, I fell half way through the project, twisted my already bad ankle. It just proves I cannot and should not stay here anymore. I cannot take care of this place. My Rt Arm was not strong enough to balance me just three steps up.
My neighbor finished my project. However NO one really offers to help someone in this neighborhood who is disabled. Oh they see you in bad shape Alright, and they see a huge branch I cannot possibly drag to the pile. Do you think anyone at all would offer to help me? Drag the branch to the pile?
Once I was on the ground, Norman who I don't know very well, helped me up. He did, ask to help me. Certain things have to be done before the house is on the market. Like dust the ceiling fans. I can't reach up. I will indeed ask this neighbor for help. I have had it here, and need to move on to a villa or some smaller place. Just frustrated Bizi, but I will be OK. I have a life I want very much, just much work to get there. Can't kill myself trying to do all the work either. Body will heal, and I will find the help if I have to stand on a street corner asking my neighbors for help with a sign! Norman can't do it all. With no money to hire out for help, well, it kinda makes it hard. It seems money is the only thing most people want to help you. thanks for asking Bizi, I am going to be tough and get through this too. ginnie

I am living in my parents' home country. I can't stand it here. I screwed up my chances of getting a green card through work, when I had the chance. Made bad choices. OH, it looked fine at the time... Goin' to California... woohoo. Yeah. Well, in California, most of what happened was me missing Florida. AND, bird in hand is worth two in the bush. The jjob there wasn't all it was cracked up to be, it sucked, they milked people like cows. I am not a cow Ginnie, I will never be a cow. Some people will do anything to get what they want. Not me. But you know, probably I would have been their cow if I had realized then that screwing up would have landed me in my parents' country that calls me a citizen by heritage, but where I feel like a foreigner, and am taken for a foreigner. I grew up also a "foreigner" in the islands, wehre again, I have citizenship by birthright. But my heritage is different. I am a cultural misfit, but the US is good with cultural misfits. We fit in. Everybody is a cultural mix, so it's ok.

I am tired of being a foreigner. It sucks. I even have an accent now. People mistake me for American.... the only thing I am not... but would be if I could.

I can just see you, in my mind's eye, working on that frog. I would looooove to see a pic of that frog... it sounds wonder. I really really miss my arts and crafts. I used to do all kinds of things. Maybe not big things like you. But speaking of frogs -- I love froggies btw... I used to make little pompom critters. Like for hanging on car mirrors or wherever. I made a few as fridge magnets. I don't have the working room staying with my parents, and don't anywhere near have the place even to store my craft materials in the apartment. I miss all that stuff so badly. I used to draw too, and sometimes paint. And play guitar and sing. It's all gone. I feel as though I live in a limbo prison.

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That is just crazy!!!
Glad to hear it is getting better. Thank goodness your son is able to help. It's great that you are seing results already. That's encouraging!
Is your ankle damaged from the fall? I'm sorry, Ginnie. I am glad Norman was there and willing to help. Do get help with the ceiling fans and other treacherous tasks in the home, if you can, but don't sweat it too much. Really, if there isn't structural damage, a litttle dust should not hurt your market value too much. Do what you can, and let the rest be. It will be ok. The new owners can bring their own elbow grease and young muscle.

You are a brave, brave woman, and an inspiration to us all. Certainly to me.

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I didn't know about the situation you are in involving countries. No wonder you know so much about the system that either lets you into this country or keeps you out. I wish you felt peace, in the location you must be in. I can't tell you how many times in life I screwed up too, landed in a hole harder than heck to crawl out of it. It is also not fun to be milked like a cow, just for what they can get out of you. Seems to me much of the world works that way. Then again, there are a good bunch of us, that puts faith back in mankind. Do you like what you do now? Is there some gratification in it? Can you do art on the side?
I wound up an artist, in many ways because I didn't want to be milked with the people I was working for. I had a chance while sick to learn this occupation, so I just lucked out on that one. I hated working for others.
Waves, just PM me, I will send you pictures of the frog, me, and let you see some of my life. That is open to anyone I know here> I am the one blessed to have this group of friends. I am awed by the courage of the people I have met. Have pictures of my fiancee if you want to know what a Rasta looks like.

Yeh I screwed up the same ankle that had problems before. Well I will see what happens. It happened, I am stuck with it, so I am going to try like heck to get better there too. Black and blue, green and purple are weird colors for an ankle. I won't let much stop me from having this life that is new and wonderful.

I go to this pain session tomorrow and welcome it. The arm is responding, and I so want to stay being an artist. Oh Waves, would love to show you, I would never send anything negative to your home e-mail. Only good stuff.
Also this new adventure is worth a peek, I have some outstanding pictures, nobody would expect. Also showing a picture of me, you will know me much better.

No more ladders, heck with house, I will sell as is. You are right, already messed myself up trying. The stress isn't worth it. I will find a tiny place where I will not need much to live.

No matter what roads we take, there is always risk. Sometimes we get it right, other times, well it can be a crap shoot. I hope your life turns out good Waves, and that you can find some real joy and happiness . ginnie

oh ginnie,
I am so sorry about your poor arm. and that you reinjured your ankle.
Please let things go and try to take it easy.
You are a very strong woman and I think you are amazing.
heal thy self no one can do that for you.
(((((HUGS))))))
bizi