Hi All,

My ex husband has been dead now for a week and I just found out about it today. Even though he was a monster to me, I am still devasted about his death.

befuddled2

Well of course you are...you invested years with this man. (((Barbara)))

Dear BArbara,
This must be shocking to have found this out.
Had he been ill or was it a heart attack...do you know?

Be kind to yourself...you need time to heal from this and yes you slhould be entitled to social security i think.
I am sorry that you are so depressed.
this is a hard time of the year for so many.
know that you are not alone....
bizi

Thank you Alffe and Bizi.

Bizi, I don't know any of the details of my ex-husband's death. No one will tell me anything or they don't know anything.

I took my medicine at 4 and will go to bed at 5 p.m.

befuddled2

Barb

More hugs to you.

I'm hoping you start to feel lots better soon.

Were here for you.

Donna

Dear Barbara;

I am like you, I very much dislike my ex, but we did have some good times in the beginning and he is the father of my children (poor kids). But if he were to die today, it would impact my life and I would have to grieve. So give it time and don't be hard on yourself either.

Take care,
Nancy-H

I'm suprised to here this too! If you went to the libary they probably have a copy of a newspaper clipping about it. How old would he of been? Maybe it was cancer. It can kill at a young age. I hope you are better soon. I'm here if you want to talk Barb.
You need {{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}

______
Billie

Barbara, I am so sorry to hear of his death. Bless your heart you have good reason to be upset over it. I hope you find out more about it, so your mind and heart can feel some peace. I am truly sorry this happened.
God bless, Gaye

many obituaries are posted on the newspaper's websites - you probably can just do a Google or search on his name if you want to.
Although it may not say the cause of death.

Did he ever apologize or acknowledge his abuse of you?
You don't have to answer that if you don't want to.

Thank you all,

A trillion tears later and I'm not sure how but I know I'll make it through this. My faith will pull me through for sure.

My husband was told he had cancer 3 weeks before his death so it was kind of sudden. He declined chemo but I'm not sure it would have helped by time he found out anyway. I've been told conflicting stories about where he died. Some said he moved to his home town and another said he died in the home we shared together. I called Social Services and requested an application be sent to me for aid. I have a little saved up to carry me through until I get financial assistance I'm sure.

Jo, my husband did write to me after he was arrested for busting my lip to try to get me back. He kept trying to get me back and I wrote him back and told him I had taken him back twice and his abuse got worse. I told him that statistics say an abuser does not get better and that they only get worse. The last I spoke to him was at arbitration when discussing our property settlement. He was not nice then. Before that he called me and called me boo bear, his pet nick name for me and one of the hardest thing I had to do was tell him it was over. I really dispise his mom who did everything in her power to cause trouble between him and I. There may have been hope had he not had her running me down in the dirt and putting ideas in his head evertime he saw her. In fact I came across a letter my ex-husband wrote to me last year telling me what he had learned in anger management class. He said he learned his anger was coming from the comtempt he had with his family for not accepting me and understanding how I felt. It's a long story how his family did me. My ex-husband was to my knowledge abused as a child and thus the cycle begun when he married. From my studies in my case my husband was what one book labled him, the detroyer. Men like my husband detroyed woman because they hated their mom.

befudddled2