Dear Nanc,
I am sorry that I did not respond to your question...I felt it was probably not directed to me but to others...I am sorry that this is happening to you and that he has been your cross to bear.

YOu may or may have not thought of this but I can't help but wonder if he has a mental illness...and I hope this doesn't offend you....
His impulse actions speak of my past when I have been unmedicated...also his frequent job change etc. A mood stabilizer might help....would he consider some sort of counseling? is there depression in your side of the family....

I wonder if he would even be open to a discussion about your concerns...perhaps you have already broached this topic before....
and I could be way off the mark as well.

As far as learning how to let go....That is a hard one.
I have never been a parent so I can't not adress this comment...In my opinion I don't think you ever can stop worrying about your kids....YOu love them and want the best for them...

Again I am sorry that I did not post to you.
This situation does sound very frustrating for you....
(((HUGS))))
bizi

nancy....can we start a new thread? i didn't reply again cuz i thought it would get lost. i have LOTS of experience in learning to let go.

my grandson...grandmonkey..his mother is my daughter. christmas day will b 2 years since we have seen her. she now lives real close and she STILL hasn't tried to contact us. grandmonkey doesn't even remember her. hasn't a clue who she is if he sees a picture.

(((((((nancy)))))))

god gave us all free will nancy. even as little children...you can see who got a little or a lot.