I am so grateful for your guys' feedback and encouragement. I am taking good care of myself-sleep, exercise, fun stuff! I've recently gotten a new job that is steady income, that I really love too. I'm over feeling sorry for him. I've gone to a lot of support groups. Every day I move a little closer to leaving. I've also changed up some of my support systems-mom is out! Bad advice and an emotional vampire.

John hasn't done anything more. When I bring up issues he deflects and sidetracks. I'm not sure if he understands any of this, but that is his problem. I found a wonderful therapist in Mpls. names Susan Gustafson. She works with TBI and mentally disabled patients. She is very casual and non-threatening, but also very encouraging. When we talk she keeps the focus off his disabilities and on me. She read his neuropsych report and thinks he has Asperger's. She has pointed out that I need to be financially ready and I am not quite yet. It might be a long winter! We live in the woods on a highway and cannot really walk anywhere.

This is what is difficult now and I would like some advice. John is very focused on me. He doesn't have many other friends-he has some organized activities that he attends-which is good! When we are home I feel like the walls are closing in on me. He literally follows me around and joins in whatever I'm doing. He spaces out and steps right over messes and things that need to be done. Asks me questions constantly!! There is no conversation-that is just to converse. He is boring. I try to put space and distance but he's there and I feel so stressed in his company. I've tried to set some boundaries but they are crossed. I know the answer is to get out but it might take a little while longer.