I'm in a similar situation. My DH has been angry for years. We all tell him. A couple months ago he got MRSA and was on heavy antibiotics. Well, he's actually been a little better since then and says he can look back know and see he was angry. Mine is also depressed and never wants to deal with it. He gets SAD too so I keep reminding him to take vit D.

I think about what my life would be like if I didn't have him. My daughter has said the same thing and I pretty much said the same thing you did back to her.

He said a couple things to me last night that made me think maybe he is doing better. One was that he felt guilt about my trauma, that he felt he should have helped do something about it. Second was that he was thinking about getting a full time job. He's tried to work at home since I married him, our DD has mild autism so it's really been good, but she's getting older, I am getting worse and if I have to go on SSDI he MUST work.

Most people who are xxx (angry, depressed, etc) don't see it. I just don't know how to force them to.