I'm in a similar situation. My DH has been angry for years. We all tell him. A couple months ago he got MRSA and was on heavy antibiotics. Well, he's actually been a little better since then and says he can look back know and see he was angry. Mine is also depressed and never wants to deal with it. He gets SAD too so I keep reminding him to take vit D.

I think about what my life would be like if I didn't have him. My daughter has said the same thing and I pretty much said the same thing you did back to her.

He said a couple things to me last night that made me think maybe he is doing better. One was that he felt guilt about my trauma, that he felt he should have helped do something about it. Second was that he was thinking about getting a full time job. He's tried to work at home since I married him, our DD has mild autism so it's really been good, but she's getting older, I am getting worse and if I have to go on SSDI he MUST work.

Most people who are xxx (angry, depressed, etc) don't see it. I just don't know how to force them to.

Get him a punching bag and hang it in the garage or car port which ever you have. When he starts getting angry and pissy tell him to take it to the bag. That you and your children are not hos verbal or physical punching bags. Also tell him if he does lay a finger on you or them you will beat the tar out of him with a broom. I've already told my husband this and he believed me. I may have a ton of pain all the time but you don't touch my babies physically or verbally. I would make a mad momma grizzly look like a puppy. My husband is angry that he can't help me when I hurt so bad and the drs weren't listening to me. He is now starting to realize that this is our life for the foreseeable future. He tries his hardest to do everything plus work a full time military job. Don't give up hope.