Originally Posted by wife of tbi hubby

i can relate for sure. Husb fell almost one year ago. He has had cognitive therapy, pt neck injuries (x 3) and saw counselor. The counselor first said he felt he could help but would need 5-6 months of treatments. Then after listening and talking w/ him decided he should speak w/ his neurologist. Husb wanted me present, as i am his memory when his fails. He is a completely different person. No joy, laughter, intimacy, feelings except grouchiness.

He was able to return to work, this has made him worse. I know that all ppl are different, not meaning to say this will be your wife in any way, but to say we as caregivers need to be able to support each other.

My husband is the love of my life. But it is lonely, when he returns from a long day at work he doesn't feel like talking. I've learned to stay quiet not ask too many questions which aggravates him. To go out in a large public place, the lights and noises causes his brain to overload. If we have the kids over, after that he sleeps sometimes all day and night.

He can pretend to be the "old self" in front of others for a couple of hours but it taxes his brain too.

I hope and pray that we caregivers can find each other to get tips on what works, etc. I'm blessed in many ways, just trying to learn to live and love the new husband i have.

God bless you all.