Originally Posted by Becca71

That's got to be super frustrating. I'm so sorry. I'm sure he is having a hard time. As a spousal caregiver myself it is a difficult place to be. If he is the type who would use online support in a forum, I found Well Spouse Association to be a lifesaver. There is a small fee ($30) to join, but it is worth every cent. IF it is a hardship he can contact them it can be waived. Perhaps getting some support for how he feels will help him manage better.

Anyway, maybe if you try to have an honest talk where you acknowledge the additional pressure he is under, and clarify the most important needs, and then the things that you think you can be ok if he lets them slide sometimes, and then the things you can handle, he will feel more like a "team" ? I don't know your situation and how you have handled things, but I know what it is like to be married to someone with a disability.