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Friend2U · 04-06-2008, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Jan4you

Hello dear,

I am sorry I missed your original post but glad to read today how you are changing and adjusting.

I too had a disabled husband and a very challening marriage as a result. Not his fault, as he had short term memory damage and I had very intrusive in- laws. I fought for him, advocated for him until the end. He was so toxic from his medications, 2 brain operations, etc that he died, suddenly and unexpectedly. I am glad for him that his suffering is over after 46 years of meds and seizures.

I never knew what a toll taking care of him and putting him first played on my health until now. He also was upset I think that he could not truly care for me a I did for him. His parents played that up and as a result he would live with them and not me.

STRESS can and will kill, slowly or quickly. We must take that seriously. Prioritizing, and delegating is so important. AND to re-think your goals and calling in this world..amazing!! What a learning experience!!!

Keep us informed and let us know how you are doing, the good and the not so good.

Warmly, Jan

Thank you so much for sharing with me. I am truly sorry for what you have been through and can certainly relate to most of it. It can all be so very stressful. My hubby does feel so bad that he can't be the one to take care of me. I try to let him do little things for me when he offers, even if I don't really need the help. We are just doing the best we know how to do... taking it one day at a time. Luckily, we have God in our lives... We are still human, however, but having our faith gets us through a lot.

I wish you the best. Yes, I will keep you updated. I have gotten so much good from everyone here at NT. This website is truly a blessing. You take care!

~Friend