Myself, I don't try to explain anything. If I am to decline, I do not give a litany of reasons, I simply say that
I choose not to attend/accept/appear. If someone doesn't like it, well, they'll just have to deal with that themselves, won't they.
My friends are right there and I do make an effort to invite them for impromptu coffee, etc., even if it's just a matter of giving them a chance to decline my own invitations. It at least tells them that I do value them and want to spend time with them.
Social interaction is a two-way street as is all communication. It makes no difference
why you will decline, why feel obligated to offer huge explanations?
I avoid using MS as my catch-all excuse; sometimes, I'm simply not interested in doing certain things. Conversely, sometimes getting dressed is too overwhelming. They don't need to know precisely why, I just ask for a rain check. No harm, no foul.
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Originally Posted by weegot5kiz
we are going through this right now with my eldest son and his fiance and her family, and their upcoming wedding, they dont understand why i cant stay longer or why the heat from cooking all day at their place is too much for me ect.... ect.... I actually texted him this morning and told him to do me a favor and look at what MS is and get his head out of the sand, well the word i used rhymes with glass, only thing i can figure is he is in denial, my so called friends dropped me like i had AID's ages ago when I was DX'ed, so that showed me how much they were my friends, as for feeling guilty i dont anymore, they can all, as you so poetically put it
BITE ME  |
Wow, Frank.
Way to boost your son's outlaw reputation among his new family members!
I'm not sure it's fair to expect others to "get it" when we, ourselves, barely do.
I have to wonder about your "so-called" friends' true reasons for turning away if you actually treat people like that!