I have a few questions for you two ladies to ask yourselves. Is he also a control freak? Does he have 'anger' problems? Does he sometimes stew in silence leaving you to wonder what YOU have done wrong? Does he whine and complain about how hard HIS life is? Do you feel like you're 'walking on eggshells' to keep the peace? Have you been arguing over these issues for most of your marriage and never getting any resolution? Does he tell you that you're 'too sensitive'?

If you answered 'yes' to most of these, you're married to the same man that I am divorcing after 25 years of marriage. I've come to realize that life is too short to live a miserable existence. I'm finally going to take care of myself for a change.

I'm not advocating divorce. In my situation, I feel it's my last chance to live a decent life. Only YOU know what's best for you.