Leesa, these are some of the Eternal Truths that you've pointed out. Thanks--the reminders are good.

Katiebell, I think--just from what youve said--that you know you must have "the talk" with him unless he never drinks again. As Leesa pointed out, he has demonstrated too many signs of problem drinking for you not to, and for both your sakes.

If you can't bring yourself to speak to him, for whatever reason, then your own sobriety is in jeopardy & you're not able to be a strong partner for him.

But I happen to know you can do this, although it will be incredible tough....