If he's drinking to "numb" his emotional state, or drinks because he's stressed, he could be in trouble! I think most of us drank to hide from our "problems" and to numb the pain.

He needs to find another outlet for his stress, etc., like perhaps exercising or going for walks. Drinking never solved anything -- I think we all know that. And if he continues on like this, he's going to cross that invisible line into problem drinking!

I'd speak to him and tell him your concerns. If he denies he has a problem, then he might JUST be heading for trouble. It doesn't matter how much or how often we drink -- it's what it DOES to us that makes the difference. And snce it changed his personality, and he did things he doesn't normally do, he might be headed for trouble.

Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

I really don't know what to do because he's a sensitive person and I don't want to lose him. Then again, I love him enough to let him go if it means he will be health and sober. Sorry for the contradiction but I'm torn at the moment.

Leesa, these are some of the Eternal Truths that you've pointed out. Thanks--the reminders are good.

Katiebell, I think--just from what youve said--that you know you must have "the talk" with him unless he never drinks again. As Leesa pointed out, he has demonstrated too many signs of problem drinking for you not to, and for both your sakes.

If you can't bring yourself to speak to him, for whatever reason, then your own sobriety is in jeopardy & you're not able to be a strong partner for him.

But I happen to know you can do this, although it will be incredible tough....