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Originally Posted by Mark in Idaho
louann,
Here is another link for you to check out.
Was your son argumentative before his injury? Sometimes, a behavior that pre-existed a brain injury becomes magnified by the injury.
The Dept of Mental Health may have some ideas. It sounds like he needs a lock-down mental health facility. At his and your age, he should not be your burden except you being a visitor and maybe legal guardian. By mental health standards, he is gravely disabled and unable to provide for his won care. That justifies a mental health commitment.
Here is another link for Adult Protective Services. It may be more appropriate than Dept of Mental Health
I know how hard it is to consider having him committed to an institution but you are too old to carry this burden. It will wear down on your health and then he will have nobody. If he can be placed in a care facility, at least you can have an influence on his care and visit him. I have watched my mother and my mother-in-law care for husbands with damaged minds (dementia). It is an exhausting job. It can take a decade or more off your life expectancy.
Has anybody started a Social Security Disability Income application for him? He would likely qualify for expedited approval. There are attorneys who specialize in getting SSDI applications approved. They are in the yellow pages under Attorneys/Social Security or Disability.
My best to you.
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Thanks I have been to the BECKMAN MENTAL HEALTH CLINIC which is on the site you recommended and they said they deal mostly with mentally retarded people not head injuries. I have gotten him on medicaid and ssi.
He was not argumentative with me before the accident, I don't know how he was around his friends. He did have a alcohol and drug problem. It is so heart breaking when once in awhile you see a glimpse of the of the person he used to be. Or he sometimes says he ain't no good for nothing that his arms and legs don't work like they used to or his head feels like he is going crazy. I think he really needs another evaluation and to make sure the medicine he is on is right or the right dose.
I read where people on here say they can tell when they are getting angry and can walk away, but he changes from minute to minute. If don't hear what he says or when you don't know what he is asking he cusses. It just seems like you can not do anything right and it is not just me he gets angry with everyone. I am just wondering if this things are normal with tbi. Hopefully if I get a person from the long term care system to work with me they will be able to help me get the right help he needs.