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Originally Posted by waves
Dear Mari
I understand the fear. It adds to your stress level, too unfortunately.
Here's my take (short version):
-- your perspective on your own actions will be much more critical than that of others. not to mention fear tends to skew our perspective in a negative way.
-- even if you do screw up by others' definition, it will not seriously undermine their opinion of you.
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Waves,
You are right.
When I am in a wild mood, though, I am a little bit cranky and more willing to to go beyond the bounds of politeness than other people are.
I interrupt much more than others do-- some folks want to talk in paragraphs and I am comfortable making a short remark in the middle of one of their paragraph in agreement or as an aside
I talk louder than others.
I point out the obvious.
I bring up something that has been festering for years and that everyone is ignoring for the moment.
I can get very close to cursing when everyone else is super polite.
I fidget or worse I wave my arms and get quite animated.
Depending on the group, I can get bossy and for example remind everyone to stay on task.
Or I get everyone way off task in order to keep myself looking mostly within normal range.
I walk in and out pretending to go to the rest room or check my phone multiple times. . . . .
Most of the time, I survive a meeting by saying as little as possible, . . .
I try to be a few minutes early, sit near the door, and leave whenever I want to (i.e. half way through the b.s. . . .. )
The fear of going outside the boundaries too much and too consistently is a fear.